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My baby has settled so much better than I thought since her settling in, her first week was great and somehow she already seems so much more grown up. She has eaten lunches she wouldnt touch for me and improving already with using her water cup herself (she has always refused to hold it lazy lol) so I really feel like its going to be amazing for her, I didnt expect to feel like this as I was really anxious!
It will take time but they will settle in. 🥰
I had more separation anxiety than our grandson did (he lives with us) when handing him over to the childminder his first day. He’s used to strangers because of the amount of social workers, contact workers and health visitors so he settled with her no problem. The way she does it is she takes them off you at the door so you don’t actually go in the house so they can’t seek you out and then get upset when you go to leave. He’d met her beforehand with no other children around so he was familiar with her and the setting. Does your nursery offer something similar when you just hand her over rather than go in to settle her?
She will 100% settle in, and probably sooner than it starts to feel easier for you! My LO used to cry so badly at drop off, and basically jump out of their arms when I picked him up. However now, he greet the Nursury staff with a massive smile and goes over easily! He’s come on so well since starting Nursury as well, so as much as I would love to not have to work, I know he is benefiting from his time there, and really enjoys it!
The transition will be hard, probably for you than her. She will cry when she gets dropped off for the first few weeks. She isn’t crying all day. She will adjust. You are a good mom for supporting the finances of the family, and she is going to learn and have fun at daycare
Separation anxiety works both ways. This feeling that you are abandoning her is just that, we went to one settling session last week, which was supposed to be 2, but they were short of staff as one person couldn't be there. I was there with him for an hour and a half. I went to another room for 15 mins. He cried on and off and seeked comfort from the childminder, so she was holding him during that time. They want me to drop him off and leave next time, I don't think he is ready, but I will give it a go. I feel so emotional about it, but I'm going to suck it up. It was the same for my other child, and she got used to it after some time. 🤞 for you and baby.