Name conundrum

Hi! We agreed on a name we loved 4 years ago as it linked to our wedding reading, where we lived, a story we love etc etc etc. However, I’m a specialist teacher and since then I’ve been teaching a child with this name for 4 years and after I come back from Mat will still teach her for one more year. I also work with her mum. For me I now feel like it’ll be awkward. My husband doesn’t think we should rename the name we both loved and he’s dreamed of because it’ll be awkward for one year. But for me it’s more than that and it’s that I worry that the name won’t feel like it “fits” our child since I’m so used to it being for this other child … I want them to have their own identity and name to me so I want to veto it. My husband is really upset over this and doesn’t understand. Am I being silly over this? (Also I know we don’t even know the gender yet and I have gone as far as saying I hope it’s a boy so we don’t have to have this awkward discussion anymore but it keeps coming up 😅😂) X

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how is that awkward? people don't own names. There are plenty of people named John and no one complains

It’s quite a niche name, I work insanely closely with this student (I teach 5 students of which she is one), will have taught her for her entire education, seen her every day for 4 years, I am her mother’s boss, it will seem like I’ve named my child after her. Also, the bigger thing for me is this child now feels to me like this name. I only know one child with this name and she now embodies this name. I don’t want to pick up my baby and call her this name and just feel like she’s an imposter or that my baby doesn’t feel like the real version of this name does that make sense? It’s hard because there’s not many parallels with this situation because most teachers hand a student after a year but these kids become like our little base family (like I said, only 5 students) and I don’t want to feel weird about my child not being the child I associate with that name if that makes sense?

There’s nothing wrong with you continuing to use this name, you can explain that you’ve had it picked for years and for a good reason (though you don’t need to justify) but if you feel like it won’t feel right to you anymore, then don’t do it. There’s no right or wrong answer here, it’s all about how you feel about it ❤️

I had a similiar experience with a pupil that had a name that had been on our list for a long time. I personally don't think I'll be able to see this solely as our child's name, so we've decided not to use it x

If you no longer feel it’s right. Then don’t use it. Maybe middle name instead? So you get the nod to the wedding reading still…