Has any mom's when they were pregnant had the father say he doesn't want to be involved or doesn't want kids and you still had the baby? If yes did he come around eventually?

My child’s father was super against me having her, said he wouldn’t be around, etc. I said fuck it and had her anyway and he’s a great dad now. But it’s a major headache dealing with him. Don’t bank on the dad coming around. Sometimes they do, sometimes they don’t. Make your decision to have your child for you and be prepared to do it 100% alone. Even if they do come around, they tend to still have resentment and it makes the coparenting relationship difficult.

@Sun Asia Just asking. Thanks for your answer. I'm overthinking because I'm late on my period but it's only been a couple days lol .So I'm just waiting at least a few more days before I take a test.

I did and no he did not come around. He's trash anyway and my son knows nothing about him. My son knows my older child's father as his only dad. My current partner claimed him and he's listed on the birth certificate. My second son of course looks wildly different from siblings and we said if he ever asks we would tell him about his bio dad but I don't think I'll give him the information to find him unless he really wants it.

@Leslie He might regret it someday.A father doesn't have to be blood to a father.

I don't think he will tbh. He said he could never love my son because he only loved his oldest child, and that was pretty much when I decided to not continue with his games. He would say after my son was born that he wanted to be around and we gave many opportunities and space to do so. He never did anything. We'd invite him out with us to see him and he'd decline or we'd invite him, he'd say he was coming and he'd ghost me. I decided my child didn't need that kind of instability and I basically blew up on him and that's when he said he would never love him. So I cut it off. I probably will spare my son all the gritty details of what I went through with his dad but I will caution him about how his dad is. When he's older of course. He's only 5 years old

@Leslie I understand.Some men act like women make a baby by themselves and they didn't help.Easier for them to walk away though and we are left with all the responsibility.

Yeah. I mean he made it clear from the beginning he didn't want the baby. Begged me for an abortion but I said no. And I cut ties with him because I had already decided to keep the baby. Once my son was born he had some minor health issues so of course I had to contact him to get medical history. He gave me the history I needed and then began randomly inquiring about our son. Then just became weird and controlling about it. Just all around not good situation

My baby’s dad left me at 30 weeks pregnant. He said at the start he didn’t want her then changed his mind around 7 weeks and then at 30 weeks changed his mind again 🤦🏼‍♀️ she’s 5 months old now and he’s never met her

@Lauryn I'm sorry 😔

Yeah my oldest son’s dad did this. He came around when I was 7 months pregnant we didn’t stay together. He Sees his son regularly tho

@Sam That's good,he see's his son.

I don’t intend it in a negative way but why do you guys have sex unprotected with people? I only had unprotected sex with my husband only when we wanted a baby but never before

@Cheryl that's bold of you to assume we didn't use protection. Lol. The condom broke in my case

@Cheryl For me I was using a condom and he took it off in the middle of us having sex but he pulled out. 🤷‍♀️But I haven't taken a pregnancy test yet just late waiting a week then will take a test if I still don't get my period.

@Cheryl I was told I couldn’t have kids when I was younger and have never had so much as a scare. Did not expect to get pregnant at 37 😅

@Cheryl So even though you're married,you always use a condom? That doesn't seem to be that common.

@Lauryn I was told the same but still needed birth control to regulate my periods and ended up getting pregnant with my first son after 3 years. Lol. Wild that people still think that condoms and birth control are the end all measures for pregnancy lol

@Leslie that’s different than not using it for pleasure and then ending up with a baby 😅

I understand but that’s the thing pull out method is not reliable 🤕 anyways didn’t mean to ask you rudely but just wondering why having a situation with baby for sake of pleasure 😪

Before marriage I wouldn’t dare to have unprotected sex for the risk of having babies. Not condom but birth control during marriage and if I still get pregnant by accident I know my husband will be involved and there for us… wouldn’t dare this with random people or people who wouldn’t take responsibility if a pregnancy happened

@Lauryn that’s a different scenario 😅 I’m talking about young girls not using protection for the sake of pleasure and then end up with an innocent baby with no active father etc

@Cheryl that doesn't change the fact that your question still made assumptions about our situations lol. Nobody here mentioned anything about not using protection for pleasure. You just assumed we didn't use it. 🤷

@Leslie I assumed but she confirmed that the condom was taken off and pull out method done.. that’s unprotected.

@Cheryl That's good for you. I'm not young by the way. But a lot of people have babies and it's not planned. Not saying it's right but that's what happens. And I seen even rich people. They have babies and it's not planned so and even marriages. So that's good if everything is perfectly planned for you. And I'm saying like other people I know that are married. They don't use protection. They might use birth control instead but to each your own.

@Cheryl Yes and he took it off and I didn't ask him to. Have you never met any people that had unplanned pregnancies and I might not even be pregnant but I'm just saying like you seem like you are not around a lot of different people, js I don't think I even believe you that you use a condom every single time you have sex like that just sounds. Doesn't sound realistic.

Incognito don't even bother explaining to them. They're caught up in their own biases and judgments about others lol. Also, can you message me. I would like to ask you something privately given some new information you mentioned above

@Leslie Right lol. Sure

@Cheryl i got pregnant bc and a condom.

Father of my 15yr old said he didn't want kids, told me to abort, he doesn't see her or have any involvement ever, he does actually have 2 kids now too.

@Katie O maybe he was too immature back then. I don't like a man telling a woman what to do with her body.

He probably was (and selfish) but has been given plenty of opportunity to be in her life since then especially after having children himself but has chosen not to. She knows all about him and has done since she was old enough to understand.

@Cheryl I still have an innocent baby with no father In her life though 😞🤷🏼‍♀️

@Katie O Yes it's sad when men act like that and don't correct their mistakes.It's easier for men to walk away than mothers, obviously we carry the child. I see more single mothers than fathers.At least you guys have each other.

And my girls are absolutely fine with only a mother. My 15 yr old is a great teenager, one of younger teachers said if they ever have a daughter they hope they were just like my daughter! I actually decided to have my second daughter on my own via ivf using a donor.