Disappointed in friends?

I just wanted to check for my sanity if I'm the only one or if it's just hormones making me sensitive but has anyone had very different support from friends than they were expecting? I've been having a hard pregnancy and I've been so perplexed at my two best friends reactions. They haven't been through pregnancy themselves but they have barely checked in, don't remember any milestones that I've told them are coming up, either don't reply or send a 'not long now' message when I've said that I'm not feeling great. I'm really hurt that I've always shown an interest in big things going on in their lives that I've not experienced eg weddings, big job moves. I just always thought there'd be more interest than this. My mum said they'll be so excited when baby comes but to be honest the way I'm feeling I'm going to struggle getting the friendships back on track if this continues for the next 10 weeks. Trying to be positive and focus on new connections through antenatal groups and other friends who've been lovely. Just wondering if anyone else has felt the same?

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I’m going Through the exact same thing now! I found out a few weeks ago my daughter has a major heart condition and not a single friend has checked up on me and I’ve not seen a single one of them since 🥺 it’s sad but they aren’t real friends! If you need anyone to talk to, my inbox is always open 💓

I've found the same thing too. Have had one of my best friends twist things and implying I'm acting selfishly when, the reality is, pregnancy has been exhausting and most days I'm asleep at home or spending any energy I have at work. Have offered for her to come round. Just feels strange and I can't help feeling I wouldn't treat them the same if they were pregnant 🤷‍♀️ I understand how you feel about potentially rebuilding relationships as it's hard to get beyond the idea of them not being there in one of the most life changing and challenging moments of our lives. I'm just waiting to see if they come through 💜

I’m going through it too only one of my friends are checking in. I’ll be your friend 💗

I think I will be really wary of those people who are only interested in seeing me again once I have a newborn. I’ve been ignored by a few, the strangest one was being told that they can’t be friends with me as I will remind them that they didn’t get a chance to have children- this was from a guy friend. Some really bizarre behaviours that I didn’t deserve and as a result had to shut the door on those friends and move on. I think classes/groups/app meeting new mum friends are the best moving forward into this next chapter if these friends are not supportive of you whilst you are pregnant

I’m going through the exact same thing, it’s heartbreaking. I was admitted into hospital when I was 24weeks and she hasn’t even come to see me yet (30weeks now).. We haven’t seen each my whole pregnancy, I lost my dad just before finding out I was pregnant and lost my aunt “ like a second mother” last week. - not even a phone call

@Alysha so sorry to hear, but your daughter gets better x

@Erica sorry for you’re loss :( my inbox should be open if you need anything 💗

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