Why is my husband so against me breastfeeding

I can’t wrap my head around it ? To give some context unfortunately my daughter and I did pick up “bad habits” like breastfeeding to sleep “ and settling her with breast-feeding when she would get upset. It’s taken a while but she now naps once a day and goes to bed at night with out any breastfeeding at all, and has done now since she was 17 months. Shes naped with out breastfeeding since she was about 10 months. all night time feeding stoped when she was 10 months with the odd occasional breastfeed if she woke up at like 4/5 am and she would feed then go back sleep sometimes she would take a bottle so it wasn’t always and this only went on for a few weeks. Now I’m down to 1 feed a day and he’s so short and snappy about it. Just asked me “ did you feed her today ?” And I said yes and he asked when so I answered at about 11am and he said why are you feeding her when you can give her a snack ( the snacks he gives her are processed rubbish and in my opinion breastmilk would be better than some maze based crisp snacks I give her are fruit mostly) he then said why am I feeding her she doesn’t need it and she’d had her breakfast. ( her breakfast was at 8:30am I explained that she was asking for it and he said well you should walk away I then explained that usually I do distract her but today she was getting very upset and so I thought with the time not being near a meal or a nap it was okay as he has told me not to feed her before or after a nap which I don’t do and I don’t breastfeed her in the afternoon really unless she’s like really kicking off and won’t “leave me alone “ as in just keeps trying to get to the boob. He just huffs and puffs and is so horrible about it and its always after he sees his mother What am I missing why is he so anti it?

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Oh that would rile me right up, sorry you have to deal with that. I would point out to him (and his mother) that the WHO and NHS actually recommend you continue to breastfeed until 2 and beyond. There are SO many benefits for them, mainly nutrition but also immunity and comfort. Also, extended breastfeeding may help lower the risk of breast cancer, ovarian cancer, high blood pressure, and Type 2 diabetes for you! Why wouldn't you carry on with so many benefits. Continue to do you, your doing what's best for you and your daughter. Your doing amazing 👏

Sorry but what an asshole. The most natural thing in the world and he makes you feel bad about it. Probably he was formula fed, that generation of mothers was told formula is better than breast milk, they were the ones putting baby cereal in the bottle too. She can't wrap her head around you BF and keeps telling him and he's not man enough to tell her it's none of her business. So sorry you have to go through it, you're doing amazing. Btw, feeding to sleep is the easiest way to get them to sleep, it drives me crazy of someone calls it bad habit. It's freaking nature!

I get something similar, even though not to the same extent, and I do still feed her a lot more than that... From what I gather it's just the backwards mentality that the baby needs to grow out of it, once he told me she is walking and talking now, so she shouldn't need the boob anymore. He also said it gets very embarrassing when we are with his family and she asks about it, apparently everyone looks at each other awkwardly...

Ask him why he does things he likes.... because it gives comfort Tell him her needs and wants in this come before his and its not for negotiation She will stop when she's ready NOT him If you want to go one step further you could stop him touching you in the bedroom saying he should have grown out of that by now 😜😉😂

Tell him to shut up it’s biologically normal, 7 was the average age to stop when they lost their milk teeth (hence the name), if YOU and your child are fine to continue then do so. Maybe each time he says something remind him of the benefits you AND your child receive!

Oh god this makes me so angry and I don’t even know him 😩 first of all they’re not bad habits, it’s completely natural and an amazing thing you’re doing for your little one! Is he jealous or something? It’s so strange x

Thanks everyone I don’t feel so alone now and we actually just had another argument about it and he said it’s ruining our relationship 🤦🏻‍♀️

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