Visitors

Before my baby was born, my partner and I shared rules with immediate family for being around our newborn, at least for the first 21 days of his life. I'm usually a bit of a people-pleaser so setting these boundaries was actually kinda difficult for me. My baby is now 11 days old, and some family friends are wanting to come visit and see the baby because their 12 year old is going for surgery for her arthritis in a couple weeks, and she wants to see the baby before then. The thing is, she was super excited about the pregnancy and she's very excitable in general so I'm unsure I would trust her to hold the baby despite her age, and her Mum wears very strong fragrances like perfume and incense. They're not immediate family and my Mum is trying to guilt trip me into letting them visit as they live long distance and their kid is having surgery. But I know that this would go against my own rules, yet I'm also finding it difficult to say no so right now I'm ignoring messages hoping time will just pass.