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Partner depression

I feel like a bit of a fraud posting as I'm not the one with depression, but my partner is. It got really bad after having our second baby and has got to the point where although on medication he is self harming. Last night he was cutting his neck and then woke me up because he scared himself. I helped clear him up but I really don't know what to do. I want to help him as much as I can but we have 2 children to look after which just adds to his stress. He's spoken about how he feels the best thing is to leave and how he doesn't want to live anymore. I love this man with all my heart but I would be lying if I said this wasn't getting really difficult for me. Has anyone experienced what he's going through and can tell me and offer advice as to what I can do for him? Or if anyone has dealt with it through a partner. I'm at a complete loss so I would appreciate any form of support and advice.

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No I have not but to me it sounds like he needs to get help I am so sorry you are going through this I hope life gets better for you

Is he refusing speaking to a therapist? This is now beyond your control. I am so sorry you’re both going through this. Being a parent is hard enough. I would strongly suggest therapy or a mental health rehabilitation center. This can’t only be your responsibility. Maybe and intervention with friends and family explaining that he is loved and needed and in order for him to be his best self for his children he needs to seek help.

Is he getting treatment? Not just medication, but therapy? He may need to be evaluated and held in a hospital to adjust his medication. You can’t take care of him and manage his mental illness for him. And he can’t expect you to carry him because you also have children to care for. He has to help himself. And this is coming from someone who has always been the mentally ill one in the relationship lol

Thank you all so much for your replies. It's coming up a year now since this all started and although it has been stressful and challenging I've always tried to be there for him. He has been to therapy but I wouldn't say he's really given it a good enough time. By 2nd/3rd session with the 3 he's gone to he's cancelled it. He's work have told him he gets 10 free sessions so I'm hoping the fact he doesn't have to pay for them with entice him to continue with the full 10 sessions and he will eventually not dread them as much as he does now. @sophie thank you sooo much for all these suggestions, I'll have a good look through and try to implement them and see how it goes. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for the support ❤️

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