Does anyone else’s partner make them do everything?

Yeah mine was exactly like this until I put my foot down and told him to grow up cuz I’m not staying with a child. Don’t let him get used to it point out everything and use ur voice . The more u bring up what u see wrong the better . He will start to see his wrongs If ur a sahm Ur husband should be going 50/50 on cooking , cleaning, and childcare If he has a problem then use his money to get a cleaner nanny etc ,, Mine used to make me contact his family and plan things with them but I cut that off quick .. I’m not his assistant and he needs to be the one in contact anything related to his family

@Luz I have tried to put my foot down and even his therapist has told him to stop treating me like a child/his mother because he switches it up. I am a SAHM I’m also in school finishing my degree and I’m almost 8 months pregnant. We had a cleaner coming but can’t afford it with our daughter in daycare now. I don’t even have access to his bank account with the money in it. I just have access to his other account that sometimes gets money in it.

Ok since he does whatever he wants and doesn’t respect ur voice then u go ahead and do the same as long as ur not doing anything out of line. Maybe after he see what that feels like he will learn U need to break free the reason why he is treating u like this is probably bc he knows u can’t leave financially , but u need to make it clear that ur not playing around and u can easily leave him. Our husbands are not our parents or our child. I’m in the same boat as u when it comes to finances so I cant advice u much on that but we both need to make changes and have full access to finances . Deff message me and we can keep each other updated and give each other ideas

Weaponized incompetence

@Luz I’m about to start only taking care of myself, the toddler and my soon to be newborn and just leave his stuff alone and not do it. I feel like he is treating me this way because it’s how his dad treated his mom when they were married and when he was a kid. He just doesn’t see that’s how it works in today’s day and age.

He should be more mindful, and take on more responsibilities now a father…. And no it’s not just your job to put your child/baby to sleep he can too! Xx

he wants a maid not a wife.

@Violeta💘 I tell him that and he always disagrees and says that’s not true.

use reverse psychology or try something else, if you keep doing these things nothing will ever change.

If he's ignoring what you AND a therapist are saying I don't think he cares to try and do better...I'd honestly finish my masters as fast as I could and then start saving my money. Don't allow him access or to even know how much money you have or make. I'd be planning an exit because if I'm going to do everything anyway, I'd rather it be on my terms.

Yeah this is manipulation and abuse, in the seedling stage. If you continue to allow it, it's just a matter of time, before he continues to put every task on your shoulders. And then call you weak for being human. I would consult a licensed therapist and figure out what to do about it. Inputting boundaries and expectations now, may be difficult. And you have to find out if this is worth walking away for, or not. That some hard conversations to have!

Naaa you’re not his partner you’re his PA. You’ve literally allowed yourself to be treated like this, only you can change it.