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please help!! is it time to move my daughter to her own bed or can anyone tell me the problem? my daughter will be 2 in march we are also expecting our second baby, my daughter wakes up every single night and won’t go back to sleep, this happens for a few weeks then sleeps fine for a couple of weeks. but mostly she is waking more then not we love co sleeping i love cuddling her but can’t help but think this is because of sharing a bed. sometimes she wakes when we come to bed other times it’s later in the night but baby is due in june so if it’s best for her to now transition to her own room i’d rather sooner than later but really don’t want to please help!

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My son used to wake if one of us breathed too loud in the room lol we moved him into his own bed in his own room at 9 months now everyone sleeps. I co slept with him until he learnt to roll over then I was too paranoid he would fall out my bed so he was in the next to me with the side down then once he was too big he went into his cot in our room right next to me then as he got bigger he sleeps so much better in his own bed with rain sounds in his room. I have a rocking chair in there he is 14 months and we still have lots of cuddles in the rocking chair until he’s real tired then he goes into his bed and settles for the night. Maybe she needs the noises blocked out and a little space of her own x

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if she falls asleep with the telly on she will sleep through the noise she is surprisingly good with noise i just love cuddling her all night so it’s just hard to think about 😂 thank you! xx

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I was cosleeping with my 2yo last year until about halfway through my pregnancy. I moved her into her room last January and her dad started cosleeping with her instead. She’s 3 now and still wakes at night so she’s comforted by him being there. I cosleep with my baby who was born in June. It’s worked well for us!

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aww glad that worked for you! sleeping separately wouldn’t work:( i have major attachment issues to my partner 😂 im not sure if she’s waking because of us or if there’s another reason so we’re stuck 😂 xx

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Dumb question but how yall get to have a second while co sleeping?? 😃 y
If you know what I mean

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we only sleep in one room 😂 we have lots of other rooms

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got you 😆

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She likes sleeping with you and knows that you’ll take her in. The only way for this to change is if you do some sleep retraining. Also, if she can be in a different room that may help. This way you are out of sight and she is less inclined to call out for you.

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We struggled with this so bad that sometimes i wish i never introduced cosleeping lol but basically same with my son but before his 2nd birthday we were trying to get him into his own bed so we just put him in there & would sit in his room with him until he fell asleep. He would wake during the night but we just put him back into bed & consistently did this for like a month. Now he's 3 he will wake up & come into our bed & we still have to sit with him til he falls asleep but he falls asleep in like 2 seconds now versus like 45 mins. We just tried making him comfortable with night lights & stuffed animals.

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We cosleep with our 3 year old and our 8 month old. We thought about sleep training or moving her to her own bed but it just didn’t work out. She kinda slept in her toddler bed next to ours for a few weeks but she always ends up back in bed with us. Both kids do fine sleeping together.

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You could try what my parents did with my sister. They would start her off in her crib in her own room each night. Each night, she woke around 2am and needed them, so they would bring her into their bed then and she would sleep the rest of the night next to them. That way, she wasn't disturbed when they were awake and moving around, watching TV, etc. And got 5 hrs of deep solo sleep but then also got a few hours of snuggle time each night.

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she has always been in our bed she doesn’t come in she’s in our bed from the moment she falls asleep to the moment she opens her eyes xx

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this is a great idea! my daughter doesn’t have a cot she has a toddler bed but i may get her a single bed as i know she’d definitely prefer this xx

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Great please keep me posted on how it goes! I want to try it with our little one starting in a few months

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this is what we do with my 3 year old. She has a floor bed. My husband just goes in with her when we go to bed. I’m trying to do the same with my second baby.

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oh ok then you may need to do some sleep training. She will adjust after a few nights. Check out the Lovebug sleep app. We spoke with a sleep consultant a few times and it helped.

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