Can nurseries cancel your lo free hours spot?

My boy is 3 years old and started nursery this past. He was very happy and excited for 3 days, went to nursery happy and excited on 4th day but came back and told me “teacher shouted at (his name)” “teacher got angry” “teacher said stop it (his name)” and now he has been saying he doesn’t want to go to school. “I don’t like school” he calls it school instead of nursery. I want to talk to them Tomorrow but wondering how to approach this? And if they could cancel his spot midway or won’t take him for next term? Because it’s been only a week and they will think I am making a fuss or something. I really don’t know how to approach this. But I don’t want my lo copying such terms. He copies things very easily so it’s very easy to setup his routine/behaviour and I try to practice gentle parenting at home. And I usually say “CAN you stop doing that PLEASE, that’s not very nice” “no you can’t do that it’s not nice to do this” etc instead of a harsh tone “stop it”. What should I say in the morning? Help me please. And sorry for long post, really stressed don’t want him to dislike nursery 😞

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Just speak to them. Calmly mention what your wee one has said and then go from there

I'm always mentioning things I'm not happy with or I email them if I feel I wont get the words out right. They've always been OK and understanding. It wud take a lot for them to cancel the spot. If you're not happy then they need to work with u.

The phrase “stop it” I don’t see an issue with at all. It’s a direct message to get someone to stop doing what they are doing. You don’t know the context as well because he could have been putting himself or another child in harms way. They also don’t have the time to adjust to 30 parenting styles and is something your child will have to adapt to. I would maybe approach it by saying your child seems to be frightened to go to nursery after being shouted by a teacher to ‘stop it’. I really want my son to enjoy his time here but could I have context around the event so I can help my son better understand why it happened. I know they are very young at this age but wouldn’t it be better to teach your child to adapt to different styles than have issues every year at school. Then once they are having to go out in the work place they won’t struggle with different personalities and can understand things better.

My little boy came home on his 4th day too saying that his teacher had told him to go away and that it had made him sad and didn’t want to go back. I emailed them, they said it wasn’t the case and he’s fine going now, that was back in September x

@Lesley I totally agree. Also, my LO has been going to nursery since April, and still now some days she says that she doesn't want to go to nursery when I ask her why she says because you're my best friend and I love you ❤️ 🥹 some kids would just prefer to be at home but once she's there she loves it and has friends it's just a part of growing up

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