Am I right to be angry?

MIL visited us a week ago and stayed for 2 nights for the first time since baby was born (she will be 4 months end of this month). For context, she used to come to ours regularly (every month usually) to spend a couple of nights just to unwind. I've never had a problem with that because I loved hosting her. However, this last time when she came, she was recovering from a cold and she had a very very nasty chesty cough! And yet she came anyway, knowing we have a newborn who could catch it off of her. I never knew until she turned up and started coughing and wheezing. My husband said he never knew she was still unwell otherwise he would ask her to cancel. My little one ended up catching, naturally!! She had a good couple crap days and nights. It has now been passed on to me and I have a mucusy throat which I absolutely dread and abhor!! I mentioned to my husband that I weren't happy about her coming knowing that she was ill and he agreed with me. I don't want to sound hateful because I do like my MIL and get on well with her. But I just can't let go of the fact that all of this could've been avoided!! For context, I have no family around at all to look after me or my baby so it's just me doing it all even when I'm ill.

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You are definitely right to be angry. I think if y’all have a good relationship yall should both talk with her and let her know how it made yall feel at that it cant knowingly happen again

U deff have a point… It could have been an accident and she didn’t think about it. But Deff mention it so she’s more aware next time

Totally justified. It is perfectly well known that you don't take colds to a newborn's house. My entire family knew this rule without me needing to mention it, and they have all self isolated whenever they had even a sniffle. My MIL on the other hand let us get fully into her house while I was 8 months pregnant before telling us she had COVID... Some people are either ignorant or selfish.

Might be dramatic but she could’ve potentially put your baby in the hospital. I’d have gone ballistic if someone tried this with me. Tbh I would’ve sent them packing the moment they turned up. Anyway yes you are right to be angry. I’d be livid.

You're right to be angry, however try not to let this ruin what sounds like a lovely relationship you have with your MIL. Maybe just ask her next time to re schedule if she has a cough or doesn't feel well to avoid this in the future

You have every right to be upset. That was extremely selfish of her. I have family members that do this ALL of the time. I’ve now had to ask before I show up or they come over if anyone is sick. I get dirty looks and smart responses. They for some reason just look at me being dramatic or a germ freak. To me it’s just common sense and common courtesy?! Nobody wants to get sick let alone their child. It all trickles down to the parent getting no rest, having to call off work, can’t take your baby out anywhere. There’s so much more to it! If I were you, I would have your husband have a conversation with his mom in preparation of her next visit whenever that may be. Telling her how the two of you did not appreciate her coming sick last time which resulted in you and baby getting sick and to please be more upfront and careful next time.

My MIL did this to us when my daughter was 3 months old. She was like ‘I think its hayfever’ I was like ‘do you normally suffer with that?’ ‘No’ so you’ve come here with the flu? Lol Its really selfish to be honest

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