I want attention from other men besides my bf.
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Honey let me tell you men will change if they want to. My husband when we were dating did that all the time I made a big deal about it and I did the same right back to him and he hated it. When he found out we were pregnant he completely changed. If a man is truly interested in believe he will do what it takes to change for you. If you need total privately I'd be more than happy to. I pray it gets better for you love.
It is normal to look at other people, and of opposite gender in an admiring manner. Sometimes you see people that just catches your eyes so of course you’re going to spend a few moments staring and studying them. It’s not just men, women do it all the time, and for some reasons it’s fine when we do it. You watch series or movies with a man walking around topless and you’re already going “damn, he’s hot” in your head. But when a man watches other woman with their busts out on TikTok women go nuts on them on how inappropriate that is. He can very much do that and still want to sex you up everyday because he loves you and he only wants to feel your body, everyone else that he watches and sees is just a passerby. However, you actually want attentions from other men, now that is different. All that means is you are no longer attracted to your bf and is now trying to come up with a way to justify yourself about how you feel. A break up seems like the next step 👍
@Nattinan no I think it’s different. I feel like yeah women check people out but it’s not the same as men. Most of us don’t get boners or stare too long or catalog that for a jerk off session. And it’s definitely inappropriate to do it in front of your significant other. Not to mention soft core porn of women is everywhere and they consume that constantly more so than us. The way someone acts or how they treat you CAN be a turn off especially sexually even if you care about them. If my needs aren’t being met by bf and I feel this way I really don’t feel like I need to justify anything. If I was actually doing something or checking people out or making him feel inferior then yeah that’s a problem.
Yes mam! Someone catching your eye for a few seconds is much different than what he is doing. I don’t even think other men are attractive enough to have any sort of arousal come on. None of what that lady was saying above. I think pretty much anybody feels good knowing men/women are checking them out. It’s not like you’re feeding into it or interacting with them it just feels good to know you’re appealing. Porn and stuff will never be ok in my book. While pregnant and PP I go through very low libido, no drive. But I still very much love my husband and am attracted to him. He would never be checking another female out or watching porn. He’s very low guard with his phone around me, I can grab his phone and see his for you/explore pages on any social media and it’s literally husband content and DIY projects and wife jokes. Dad stuff. Never have I ever seen some sort of half naked bs on his phone bc that would be he looks at that stuff! Communicate firmly that you’re not ok with it!!!
@Amanda Brown exactly. Even when I was a horny teenager I don’t think I ever felt physical arousal just from looking at someone man or woman. Your husband sounds like a good one. I think porn and social media has rotted peoples brains personally
Thank you. I’m so sorry. It breaks my heart reading all these stories on here, similar or worse to yours!!! Have some serious talks with your man, esp if he’s the father of your children! If he loves you he will change. Use I feel statements, do some research on addressing these issues and how to communicate effectively. I hope things get better!
Do it. And you shouldn't feel guilty, because I'm sure your boyfriend doesn't feel guilty but pleasure when he's looking at that shit
It happens 🤷🏼♀️ it’s human nature