Idk if I should even care anymore or what…

But I’ve had this friend who is my first borns godmom. I haven’t seen her since last April, at my first son’s birthday. That is also the second and last time she met my second born who was 3 months at that time. Well yesterday I had a birthday party for my second born since he’ll be 1 tomorrow and I didn’t even bother inviting her because I’m pretty sure she doesn’t even remember when my second was born. We invited my friend’s ex boyfriend instead since we are friends with him as well, and he’s been in my second borns life more than she has. And recently my first borns life as well. Her ex boyfriend told my husband yesterday what a disappointment my friend is, and she should have been to the party instead of him because she’s the one that brought him originally into my family.. which is not fully true because my husband and I knew him since we were younger. Anyways. My friend hasn’t even hit me up to ask about a birthday party or anything (she doesn’t know I had a party yet). And I kinda think she doesn’t even remember when my second born was born and it’s kinda frustrating. Like a little bit of me wants to care that she hasn’t hit me up, but at the same time I don’t care because she hasn’t showed any kind of caring for her godchild and my second born anyways. And before you say “well you should hit her up” I’ve hit her up plenty of times about different stuff throughout the year and I either just get reactions (thumbs up, heart, etc…) to my text messages (I have an iPhone), one worded responses, or no response at all. So I’m done hitting her up first. My other friend said I should I have a convo with her and tell her how I’m feeling and stuff. But at this point.. what is that going to change? She’s going to change for a day maybe and pretend to care? No thanks. She is already showing me