What do I do about my mil?

I do not have any respect for my MIL. When I was still pregnant, she told me that her son will not be a good dad and will be just like his father. I cut off my relationship with her because how could you say that about your son? Anyways, we havnt seen her since October and it’s now January. We’ve made plans to have her come over the house but she never showed up. The last couple weeks, sicknesses have been going around and my son got pneumonia. It’s funny because that’s the only time she ever wanted to visit but we had told her no because why would we want visitors when everyone’s been sick and my baby has pneumonia. She then cried to my husband saying that I don’t like her and that I don’t want her around her grandbaby. She has asked me if she is allowed to discipline my baby and asked me if she can be in the birthing room to record my whole birth process but I said no. She talks shit about my parenting ways to my husband side of the family and when I asked her not to kiss my baby, she went ahead and kissed him all over his face and head and pretended like it wasn’t a problem. I tend to hold grudges so what do I do?

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Ridiculous behaviour, all of the above. I'd also cut her off and don't worry it's not you being the problem by "holding a grudge". She made her bed, now rot in it

Yes definitely cut her off, my MIL used to talk so much racist things about me to her daughters and they told me. Told my partner and he has an argument with her and denied everything and said more things about me to his face. He stood up for me then stopped seeing his mum for a few months and even stopped talking to her. Then she started again to a point I told my partner she isn’t welcomed in this house nor am I going to hers to visit and neither is my son. He got annoyed but understood and it took her about almost a year to fix up because he wouldn’t go round to see her aswell. Only started seeing her recently and she’s being nice now. Tell your husband how you feel. Has he spoken to her about what she says about you? Feel like you just should cut her off and when she’s ready to be nice and have common sense, she knows how to contact you both. I’m so sorry she spoke so bad about you and disrespected your rules when it came to your son

Haha love how both options above are “cut her off”, I think you’ve made your mind up and I don’t blame you!

The second she kissed your baby after you told her not to, that is the end of her being a grandparent. It's not even a question!

Sounds like we have the EXACT same mother in law lol. Working on cutting her off slowly but surely. Currently low contact

It’s probably at least partly up to your partner. You can set boundaries for their interactions and exactly what she can do. but he ultimately needs to decide if he wants to cut her out of his life/kids life. My MIL nearly dropped my baby on his head yet we still go. I just never leave the kids with her unattended

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