Is your marriage anniversary a big deal?
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I feel like it’s not a huge deal but I still like the opportunity for cake so I’d be sad if we didn’t at least do that.
@Sarah🦄 do you usually plan it way in advance or last minute?
@Cat who usually initiates the planning?
We do anniversaries but not big. Some flowers, some extra sweetness that day and plenty of affection but no big dates or grand presents. If he’s away, I get a lovely gift in the mail and something that lets me know he’s thinking of me that day.
@Sapphire Fire its always planned in advance.
@Sapphire Fire me. My husband sucks at that 😬🤷♀️
@Cat are you okay with that? With always being the one planning something?
@Sarah🦄 can I ask how far in advance?
@Sarah and this happens regardless of whatever is going on?
@Sapphire Fire it can be frustrating sometimes but he also works all day and doesn’t have the same availability to plan things all the time. And he pays for it all. So it balances for us especially because I like to plan stuff
@Sapphire Fire regardless. My husband works in tv news and has even remembered anniversaries and birthdays in war zones. No matter where he is or how much danger or disruption he’s facing he’s always thinking of home. His calendar has reminders in advance of days so he can make sure he arranges things for us even if he won’t be home.
@Sapphire Fire a few weeks/month once a resturant has been decided & I arrange for my parents to babysit. I got married in December, so need to get the table {at the resturant} booked in advance. Just with all of the xmas parties.
We usually exchange gifts. This year will be year 5 in May but my daughter’s first and my birthday are 5 days before our anni date so I think we might hold off on doing something big this year. But it’s not a big deal to him, he celebrates and does stuff cause it’s important to me. Same for birthdays and holidays.
Idk it’s not really a big deal to either of hs but it makes us both happy but we don’t do anything big to celebrate. Our 1 yr anniversary we took our son to the zoo . Last yr he brought home Italian for dinner coming home from work and this yr is unknown but it’ll probably be similar . We don’t do flowers or gifts for it tho .
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My hubby and I always talk about it a week or two beforehand, like I’ll tell him if I’m really not expecting a gift of anything but I want to go out and do something fun! Then as it gets closer we’ll just throw out ideas. One of my husbands main love languages is gift giving though so I know he’ll always have flowers or chocolates or something
To those who choose “neither”, why?
His birthday is 18th, our anniversary the 23rd and my birthday the 27th of the same month so we never do much. We get cards and maybe have a nice dinner, but nothing crazy.
My marriage doesn't seem to be a big deal in general to my husband. He acts like a roommate who lives here for free and has no responsibilities. He never proposed properly, we got married in the courthouse, no honeymoon.
We usually just go for dinner / lunch. Nothing major but we both help pick where we go.
Not a huge deal to us, we may get a takeout and that’s about it we don’t do gifts etc. I think the first year we went out for dinner got each other a card but that was all. it’s also between our sons birthday my MIL and my own so there’s already a lot going on
@Monica was it a choice or was it due to circumstances? Mine never proposed properly and just courthouse marriage too. He says he plans to correct those errors once we are more financially buoyant…
We do celebrate, mostly because my husband knows it's important to me. He wouldn't bother. It was our first wedding anniversary last year and my husband made me a paper rose, each layer was a map piece for somewhere special to us. I was quite touched to be honest. I would be upset if we didn't celebrate at all, especially as we don't really do very much fir Valentines day
We’ve been together for 20 years this year. I think celebrating the big ones is more of a thing now rather than each year.
I'd feel gutted! Sending hugs🤗 I hope that you're okay.