in Mamas with depression, anxiety, and other mental health disorders

Regret?

I feel like such a bad mother. I can’t stop grieving my life if I didn’t have a baby. I’m 3 months pp and just struggling so much with the fact that I’m only 20 and wanted to do so much more before having a child and now I feel like nothing but a mom. Nobody respects me, I barely ever have time to myself, and I barely go outside. My housing situation sucks and I feel like I’m failing my child. It hit me even harder today when my fiance admitted he never wanted kids and we both just had her because our families pressured us into it out of excitement. We became excited too and we love her but we keep arguing and realizing how unhealed we are and how much harder it is now that we have a baby. I feel like I took away my fiancés youth. He deserves to go off and make mistakes and so do I. I’m tired of pretending to be perfect and acting like I’m happy taking care of a child all the time. Does it get easier?

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Sounds like you need a support system message me and we can talk :) I’m older and can offer some good advice

It will get easier ❤️ babies are hard, toddlers are hard- but then they become big kids and you don’t realize where the time went.. you’ll still be able to enjoy your twenties. It’s not over I promise.

It’s never too late to do things in life your still very young by the time your child is 3 they will be at school and have a life of their own and you will have your time. Right now you need to change your outlook yes babies are tough and yes it also tests your relationship and a lot of patience’s and effort is needed during this time. It will get better your putting too much stress on yourself take it a day as it comes.

I feel the same way, I sit and mourn my freedom and what I had before so much. Both my partner and I discussed kids but didn’t expect a baby so quickly as he lives in America and I live in the UK. We are wishing her to be older already :( We have both said we miss our old lives but a lot of mum’s around me tell me they immediately felt the same way once the baby arrived. We have got this 🩷

@Amy exactly. It makes me feel better to know other mothers have gone through this and came out the other end stronger. One day we will be able to sleep in again but for now I’d say we both should seek support from our loved ones and realize we’re not selfish for needing a little time away from the baby. The burnout is so real when you can’t clock out from being a mom so let’s give ourselves grace

@Vivianna thank you ❤️

@Sab thank you ❤️ I was just having one of those moments but I know my partner and I are soulmates and will make it through. I’m gonna cherish it the best I can

Yes sis give yourself grace I honestly feel the same way and wonder how much money I would have if she wasn’t born but it is what it is and they’ll get

Older soon

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