What’s the best way to say back off to the in-laws?
Show your support
I feel that the first year also kind of establishes How they think things are going to be ran with the child. Traditions, trips, expectations etc. I think just being firm for this time and then eventually baby becomes toddler, things become more bearable when they can advocate for themselves a little more. Firm about getting used to your new family and new normal. Both sides, they are now considered extended family and the immediate family is you your partner and your baby.
Thanks for your help but we’ve got this
@Colby Thank you! I’ll take your advice. I have to be more firm. Thankfully it’s early on
@Jocelyn You’re so right! I will take your advice. Thank you for the helpful comment and your words helped me
Send the baby over to theirs with him while you catch up on stuff. Unless you’re breastfeeding ofc
Damn It feels like the me from the past wrote this… I went through the same situation I told my bf I wanted to have time for myself and in a perfect world I would be down to see them more often but rn my world is chaos so I can only see them once a month.
Non negotiable unless I decide otherwise
@Luz I agree with you and really like your words. The truth is, life right now feels like chaos. In a good way, I have a 5 month old as of today now. I’m going to tell my husband that since it sums it up for him to inform his parents to hang out while we navigate through early parenthood. Thank you!
There’s no right or wrong way to handle it. Hubby and I had a lot of trouble with our in-laws because they were overbearing. We tried gently talking to them. Reducing number of visits. Nothing worked and just resulted in them resenting us because they didn’t get the grandparent experience they wanted. It caused so much stress for hubby and I. If I could do it again I’d just be more direct and so no.