Distant husband

I know I married the right guy. He is sweet and loving. Ever since our 5 week old daughter was born he has been so distant with her. He barely wants to spend time with her and when he gives her a bottle he barely holds her or has her in such a weird unloving position. It makes me really sad and I’ve expressed my concerns. Any advice? I feel like I’m getting really discouraged and I feel so lonely.

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Did he want to have a baby? Has he dealt with children before? What was his response when you expressed your concerns?

Post Partum depression is real in males as well. Try having an open and safe conversation with him and see if there’s anything that can be done to strengthen the connection 🩵

This in my opinion is so normal for most men. My husband is the exact same way. He just isn’t good with newborns or infants. We now have 3 kids, every single one he has seemed totally distant with. Though he never grew up with little babies around, didn’t really have a father figure growing up and it’s not natural for him at all. My husband literally wouldn’t know what to do with the baby unless I tell him. Still on baby number 3, he still hasn’t caught on. But there is hope! My husband is amazing with the kids once they get older and are able to engage and interact. My two year old son now chooses him over me. Having a newborn is hard. Hard for relationships and i think it’s hard for partners to fully understand what it’s going to be like when they didn’t grow the baby for 9 months. Give him grace and time. He will get there!

It’s normal for most men. My husband is worried/afraid of our newborn because he’s small and fragile. He’ll hold him, feed him and interact with him here and there. My husband doesn’t really know what to do with a newborn as they can’t really interact with us like that yet so he thinks of our newborn more of a rag doll 🤣 9/10, he’s whining/crying with his father and my husband sometimes doesn’t use his brain and figure out what our newborn issue is 🤦🏻‍♀️ But, my husband is excited to where he’s at the stage where he can interact and be more mobile is where my husband is more involved.

my husband was like this with our first too! it’s just harder for men to connect and be nurturing to a screaming blob with no personality. my husband is totally different as a toddler dad and is better with our now second as a newborn. hoping your husband is the same!

Thank you all - this makes me feel soo much better and not alone

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