How do you guys feel about spanking your toddlers

It's so taxing but they trying to figure out boundaries. I to am struggling but spanking is off my list personally.

I don’t think spanking is ever appropriate but especially as a two year old. They are emerging emotionally and trying to make sense of the world. They are constantly testing their limits to know what’s ok and what isn’t. They shouldn’t be punished for their emotions like that. That’s at least how we approach it in my household. I was spanked as a kid and I don’t feel as if it has done me any justice.

All that you're teaching when you spank is that when things get tough, it's okay to lash out physically in anger.

Hitting for doing wrong produces a mentality that hitting others for doing wrong is ok. Spanking has been proven as a very detrimental form of discipline.

No no no. You’re just teaching them that it’s okay to hit people when you’re frustrated, when things are hard. Especially a little 2 year old they won’t understand the way an adult would put it together

I do a rule of 3; I repeat 2 times and redirect, the third time I do 2 minute time out and after that if the bad behavior occurs, I’ll spank twice

Yes, we do, but the spankings are so soft and harmless that it's hilarious 😂 when she cries and we barely tap her.

How u going to spank a toddler knowing they are trying to learn. They are new to the world. Hitting them to teach them is horrible.

I don’t spank but I do pop her hand and point and say no

I’ve seen that spanking it to get the parents frustrations out not to actually “ discipline” the child. I also thinks it’s teaching them it’s okay to hit, like why would we tell them they can’t hit us when they have their big emotions but it’s okay for us to hit them when we have ours?

All spanking does is instill fear and fear is a terrible teacher. At the end of the day do you want an obedient child who follows the rules for fear of punishment or an obedient child who follows the rules because they understand that the rules are there to keep them and others safe? 🤔

If your husband does something you don’t want, can you hit him? Or other way around? Probably not. So why should it be a solution to hit an immature child, that is learning and lacking understanding? And your mom seems to have learned from her mistakes. There is so much evidence about how bad spanking is.

I don’t do spankings, I also have a rule of 3 ! I repeat 2 times and redirect , third time it’s a 1-2 min time out, and if all of those doesn’t work it’s a pop pop but never out of anger or my own frustration. After pop pop I explain why mommy had to take it to level and also how we want to avoid that level but using our listening ears.