Feeling like my relationship is ending.

I need to vent and need some advice. I'm inna 3 year relationship with my partner and at this point our relationship is holding on my a thread. For context, I found out over a month ago that my partner cheated on me, he asked another girl for nudes because we were in a "rough spot" in our relationship and to make matters worse it was a month after I found out I was pregnant with baby number 2 and tells me I need to tell him how to fix our relationship, to me if he made the conscious decision to ask a girl for nudes over a small rough spot, theres nothing to fix nor would it or should it be my responsibility to find ways to fix a relationship i didnt put on the line ..Since then I feel practically nothing in our relationship anymore, my trust for him has diminished into nothing and my body practically shrivels at his touch. This is a man I love alliteration all my heart. Anytime I tell him I'm uncomfortable with him doing something like touching my boobs or smacking my ass, if I don't have a reason to be uncomfortable with it, he'll say he doesn't see an issue with him doing it and because he's securely frustrated he'll do it. I don't recognize this man anymore. Why can't good things last anymore.

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I’m so sorry this happened to you. I would say leave, if you can’t trust him then leave him a relationship is built off trust and love and he broke both. I wouldn’t bring another baby into a broken relationship but that’s just me personally bc I don’t want that to be the impression of love for my kids. I really hope that you heal from this in what choice you make.

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You are still hurting and he needs to be understanding. What do you want? Everyone will say to leave him within good reasons but only you can decide that.

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I'd be straight up telling him that his behaviour re the touching is sexual assault and it stops now. No one needs a reason, no means no, and he is disgusting for not recognising that and treating you that way.

If it was me, then I'd end it. The cheating combined with the behaviour would mean I would never trust him again, and I would never look at him the same way again. My feelings would have changed, and I certainly wouldn't love him like I did.

I'm really sorry you are going through this. I hope you are safe and can heal from this. You deserve so much better.

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