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How do you guys get over a breakup lord , I’ve been so depressed and sick and just hate myself so much because it’s my fault I should have known this would have happened … backstory this man already has 3 kids by two different women and throughout the relationship it’s been very rocky , in a way he’s very controlling and narcissistic loved to make it seem like I was the problem , very quick to anger over any little thing said to him , and ever since I had our son he’s been more rude towards me like he hates me … and I have terrible anxiety so in a way when I would always go around him my body would like ache and burn and my heart always raced , but whyyy do I miss him so much despite how he treated me like crap especially while my postpartum was worse , my mom passsed away last August I was going through so much but he had no patience for me postpartum and now he has left me … and doesn’t even check on his son , he doesn’t ask about him , for pictures or anything … I don’t know what to do I’m so hurt I never wanted to be a single mom and hate myself so much for not listening to people and my gut when I should’ve stayed away the first few times he broke up with me I believed his lies and sweet talk it’s like the whole relationship was a pattern of him being nice to me then back to treating me like crap …. How are you guys dealing with being single mothers I’ve been so miserable it’s ridiculous.. and then some people said I made it harder on my self because don’t no man want to take a woman serious relationship wise that have a kid already 😪

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Damn I can totally relate when it comes to the emotional abuse. I always feel like I would feel relieved if me and him don’t work out but this shows how bad a narcissist can cause a mental control over someone . How long has it been since yall broke up? It’s normal to feel like this after a break up but if it’s going over 8months I would seek a therapist

@Luz just recently broke up before Christmas , he didn’t even wish his son a merry Christmas or got him anything , and it’s soooo awkward like if I say certain things he just quick to snap off it’s like I gotta walk on eggshells if I ever wanna talk to him then he’ll make me feel like I’m the bad guy and claim I’m acting like the victim it’s so crazy it’s driving me insane

Just put him on his place , don’t walk on eggshells, tell it like it is… he needs to hear the truth . As long as ur being respectful. I stopped walking on eggshells if he don’t like it and we break up at least I stood up for myself and told him his truth . Holding in that healthy anger is not good . It will cause u health issues . Let it out

First of all those people telling you this advice….don’t listen to them. Clearly they tell you you made it harder on yourself and no man wants a woman with kids is crap advice. Men will want a woman with kids. But it sounds like based on what you said about this man that you have to find self love. This isn’t coming from a place of judgment. Trust me I’ve been through some bad things and I get it. Having a kid also makes it harder because your hormones are all out of whack and it makes everything more challenging. This man sucks and has clearly no love for himself and many issues he has to overcome. You are so lucky he left because he is not good for you. Rid your life of the people who aren’t on your side and place blame on you. They aren’t helping lift you up at all. Work on yourself, focus on your family you created, and trust within time you will find the one. But first you must find yourself. Sending good vibes your way that you may find happiness and love.

Ask yourself this…do you even want to be with someone who doesn’t care enough to ask about his kid? He is a grade a loser and you deserve way better. Your kid wants to see your happiness over you being taken down by this undeserving man boy. Being single can be absolutely beautiful because being alone is better than being constantly dragged down and sad because of someone else.

@Rach wow that’s true I do need to find myself again and self love , it just hurts so bad that this happened and now I have to heal , it hurts so bad everyday I feel so anxious upset and sick , I’m hoping to get over this soon , thankyou🙏🏾

Yes you will. And there are good guys out there who will show you they want to be with you.

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