I want to tell my child’s doctor off

what is she doing to make you feel like a bad mother? that’s definitely not what she should be doing. i would find a new doctor and then like subtly tell her off 😂i’m fine with confrontation but i wouldn’t wanna make a scene😂

I would find a new doctor if you’re unhappy with that one. You don’t have to explain yourself, just don’t make another appointment and find someone else.

I would leave a bad review lol and find a new doctor

I really wanted to do this when my daughters doctor joked to her face that she had a big belly and asked her if she had been drinking beers with daddy, I was so livid (she was 3) and my hubby convinced me to not report it because she might lose her job. I wish I went with my gut now, she wouldn’t have been fired but perhaps spoken to.

Figure out how to complain to her boss, usually every clinic has a Practice Manager.

I saw a pediatrician for the first year with my son who was super judgmental. My son is still a bad sleeper. She told me to sleep train even after telling her I wasn’t going to. I remember when he was maybe 4 months old she told me he should be napping at 9:30, 12:30, and 2:30 and I remember thinking ‘okay I’ll tell him…’. We were just on completely different pages. I got to the point where I didn’t even want to ask her my questions. So I got a different pediatrician and it’s way better.

Can you switch and then just leave a Google review?

I remember when i went to the pediatrician when my daughter turned 6 months and he goes oh she is gaining weight. He then set down and with a serious voice he said you have to be very careful cause by the time she turns 10 she will be obese and you will have to deal with obesity for the rest of her life. I didnt want to be mean but the doc was on the heavier side and at that moment i wanted to be like soo how you are dealing with your own obesity.

@Bri WHAT! 6 months old????? omfg! that’s actually insane babies are supposed to be gaining weight he’s weird as fuck. when i was 13 my pediatrician told me that i should try eating less and working out more (i was literally anorexic) 5’4” and like 105lbs barely eating anything and he told me i should eat less.

Yeah I am a complainer when it comes to things like this. You're my doctor and I need to feel safe with you, my health is literally in your hands and if I don't, I'll make it known so that I can get another doctor. I've had a GP that dismissed my low iron levels because "hers were worse" and I went to the practice management, asked for another GP to be assigned to me and quoted what she said to me 😅 Then when I gave birth, my little one was jaundiced and was getting light treatment, but obviously still had to eat. I wanted to breastfeed but because he was a preemie, they wanted us to give him formula when he's done breastfeeding so that they can measure at least some nutritional intake. I had a lovely time with caring nurses&midwives& doctors at a temporary post-surgery department and then I was moved to my own room where I had an incredibly blunt and dismissive midwife. This woman would come in to tell me off for breastfeeding my son when he was hungry.

Then I put him back under the lights and asked her to give me the syringes to collect the extra milk I had so that I can note down how much I gave him later on. And then she bluntly said: "what milk, didn't you just breastfeed?" I said yes, but you told me to put him back under the lights. And she was like: "oh no he should eat if you still have milk and he's hungry"??!! It got me so mad, I ended up just smiling in her face (while fuming😅) because she was treating me like I was her daughter that she could boss around and tell off, like you had to be there to hear her tone 😶‍🌫️ when the next shift came in I shared everything top to bottom and they didn't send me her again, I had lovely midwives and nurses and I was there for a week 😅 my experience in the hospital wouldn't have been as nice as it was if I had her to deal with for a week, I can tell you that😅😅

Having a conversation about her bedside manner would be a good idea given how you feel. However go in with "i" statements it will be better for a more productive conversation or she may just shut down and defend herself.

What exactly that she does that makes you feel this way? It could just be that she’s just doing her job, and if you feel like a “bad mother” then that would be more of a you problem than hers? It’s going to sound very harsh but I’m sure she’s too busy to make sure that she puts you in your place when you come to visit her - either you are overthinking it due to many other possible reasons I could probably relate to myself, or you need to get some sleep and rest to cure your bad mood. But I do get how some nurses/midwife/doctor tone of voice might sound like they’re being condescending, but it is their job to advise you on what to do and not to do. Sometimes you won’t like what you hear, and that’s just how it is.