Husband wants a week off from parenting 😳

My husband is recently unemployed. He does barely any housework but cooks sometimes. I went back to work on 6 Jan and the kids are on school holidays. I WFH so I have been doing probably 20-30% of the parenting each day (between 9-5) plus 95% of parenting at other times (including night wakes). Today he announced he is "taking a break" for the next 7 days. He didn't say he would like to, he said he is. I understand this to mean he would like to do zero of the child caring responsibility for 7 days. .... He's fucking dreaming. So he genuinely expects me to WFH while simultaneously caring for the children while he SITS AROUND DOING NOTHING. To be clear. He's unemployed. Why the fuck does he think it's acceptable that I do all the housework, all the paid work and also all the child caring?
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Oh also btw I gave him a blow job yesterday because he basically was a cunt to me and the kids and said if I want him to be nice, he requires a weekly blow job. And he pulls this shit today.... 😳😳

Dump that trash.

Yeah I'd be gone in a flash ✌️ running for the hills

Doesn’t sound like he’s bringing anything but stress and more demands to your life. Give him 7 days off on the condition that he leaves the house. Then you can see how much easier it is without him around. Personally, I’d change the locks and file for divorce, he sounds like a leech.

You’ve got to be kidding me. Wouldn’t we all love to announce to our responsibilities “taking a week off, see ya” 😂😂😂

Wow, what an absolute CF 😄.

I have a million valid reasons for divorce but at present I haven't made that choice. Our marriage won't survive him being unemployed though, he better get a job fast.

Also we live with my parents and I'm about to go away for 2 days for work. And my dad for sure won't put up with his shit so he's not going to get to actually live his dream.

So wait ✋️ you guys live with your parents and he still thinks it's okay for him to be a lazy piece of shit AND you have a "million other reasons" for a divorce? So not only is he not bringing anything to the table but now he doesn't want to accept his responsibilities as a father?? This is a joke right? I'd rather run for the hills atleast they'd be able to provide food and shelter and not ask for a blow job like a bitch! 🤣 PATHETIC!!

@Francesca we moved in with my parents about 2 weeks ago. Previous, he worked full time and had a 2 hourly daily commute. And he did play with the kids on weekends. So he was "working hard". But now he's not working. And to me, not having a job is not a holiday. He already games for a few hours a day. And yet he wants....fewer responsibilities....😳😳 Like sir, it was your idea to have kids

Nah, girl. Nuh-uh. If he wants to do that, he can pack a bag and do it at his mum’s house. And fucking stay there too. There are no days off when you’re a parent. And he shouldn’t be focused on putting his feet up, he should be focused on LOOKING FOR A JOB. Man needs a kick up the arse.

Also, he doesn’t act nice for getting a blow job - that’s not how it works. He gets a blow job IF he acts nice. Maybe. No more blow jobs for that man.

Run. He is not a man.

Not acceptable behaviour for a fully grown man who has kids & household responsibilties!

How do you respond to that? Like do you speak your mind or do you “consider” it? I’d probably laugh so hard that I’d pee myself.

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Girl a weekly blowjob tf. I don’t do anything for him if I don’t get help with the house/kids. If he wants sex/bjs he has to be nice to ME! If he’s horny and I’m not in the mood I’ll wake up to a clean kitchen and breakfast on the table. I am not one to say leave him to anyone bc I believe marraige is hard hard work and anything can be fixed but girl this man is really abusive and manipulative.

I’m so sorry. I would want to slap the shit out of him. I hope your dad sticks up for you like you say! My dad wouldn’t put up with that shit either.

“Husband wants a week off from parenting” instantly got me pissed.

I’m a sahm it is never that deep. He needs to get over it. A day sure but you also need a day. 7 days no he’s stupid. Please leave him he seems lazy and manipulative.

I have been shitting liquid fire and I’m still parenting. We don’t get days off unless planned in advance and everyone is comfortable.

Lmfao wait you went back to work like 9 days and he’s tapping out already???

@Amanda Brown I went from "you're joking right" to shouting in about ten seconds. Then I refused to speak to him for an hour. Then he needed me to tell him where the soy sauce was cause he can't find anything and he was cooking dinner. So he said he would just have 3 days off, not 7. I told him where the soy sauce was but also told him parents don't get 3 days off either

@Ella he would’ve been soy sauce less if it were me

I don't think he'll attempt to follow through with it (although I'm only about 90% sure about that). I think he shouldn't say stupid shit though. I'll let y'all know in 3 days if I'm still married 🤣

He sounds like a toxic woman

Yeet him into the bin.

Update we are in fact still married. He looked after the kids adequately while I was away for 2 days and has been alright today. He has super backtracked and said I shouldn't have taken it so seriously because he didn't mean it seriously, he was just frustrated with how much work parenting is. Yeah right 😏 I swear you have to treat men like toddlers, they push boundaries that's for sure.

Imagine, this coming up and I am ready to curse @Ella man out for her, cuz I thought it was new.. mind you its 6 days old and she already updated… her man, her man, her man!!! They good & back to blow jobs 😂😂😂 #marriedlife

They love to test boundaries like toddlers! I say this all the time when I see people talking about how their husband does this and that and they don’t know what to do. Like how about you say no and voice your disapproval and watch what happens. They’re all talk 😂

@Shina haha I love you 😚 We have been together 14 years, I am very literal and he is very not literal. Our communication has come a LONG way but obviously still has some progress to go. But still, we have to keep these men in line or they'll do as little as possible

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@Ella you know I be ready to have your back on this app!!! Yes, I know how it is!!! Married 3 together 13 years. Girl I know. He gets on my nervous too!!!

@Ella wtf??

@Ella hope you're OK x

@Ella just seen you are 🤣 never put up with that shit. Men can be right turds. X

@Ruth I actually had a lil mental breakdown on Thursday/Fri although that was 50% works fault. But yeah I'm okay now. We just had another argument cause he said "teachers never get holidays, they're always looking after kids" and I was like "I don't get ANY holidays, I take all my annual leave during the year looking after sick kids". But he might have a job lined up so that's good.

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