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@Cheryl (Can't See Waves) thank you I’ll try that he’s been doing it for a very long time for it not to be growing pains xx
Mines growing pains started at 2 years old. Doctor have only just confirmed it cos it tends to start at 3. They can't explain why he's started at 2. But I would have thought ur little one wud have probably mentioned pain so might not be that.
It's not quite the same because it's not constant, it was more often when the baby was first born, but sometimes my three year old will want to be carried upstairs/downstairs, and sometimes when we're out, she asks to be carried. Sometimes I say, I can't carry you now, but we can have a big cuddle when we get there. Or I can't carry you all the way to bed, can you zoom like a rocket and I will lift you up to land when you get there? And if she asks "why?" - my back really hurts. Why? You and your brother are growing and getting bigger, so it's not as easy for me to carry you both around. "But I really want to be carried" I really like carrying you, but I can't right now. Do you want a big hug? What animal shall we walk like to get there?'
Have you tried asking things like "can you do big stomps like a dinosaur? Walking sideways like a crab? Hop like a frog? Zoom like a rocket?" to get him/keep him walking? Sometimes saying things like "can you show Harry how you can go downstairs on your bum? " works because she likes to show her brother how to do things. Playing a song to dance to another room, or play the 'Party Freeze' song/game to get there if you're not in a rush. Roleplay that he's your dog/cat/other pet so he crawls there. Ask if he can go and find something in the room you want to go to. If he asks to be carried there, maybe say it's a race and can he find it before you get there? There's a book called "Carry Me" which might help https://www.worldofbooks.com/en-gb/products/carry-me-book-georgie-birkett-9781529502732 Hope that helps and you find something that works for you x
@Sarah OMG Sarah you are amazing thank you so much we done like a rocket and I couldn’t get him up the stairs quick enough and back down thank you so so much xx
I just tell my daughter I can't as she's too heavy or that my back or ankle is hurting and then she'll happily walk
Definitely jealously bless her. I'm not sure what to suggest sorry, not in the same boat. I wonder if adding some responsibility in might help like giving her things to carry when she wants to be carried like picking and carrying a book to bed then lots of praise for being 'grown up' and 'responsible'.
Just check it's not growing pains cos mine does this sometimes and then complains his legs are hurting. I'm finding he's getting too heavy for me to carry now so I have to tell him it hurts my back because he's getting bigger. That usually works for us.