Spend time with her, spend time in nature. She's going to have to focus on healing
We live in different states š£
How old was the poor babe, were they born yet? If so you could get a bracelet with their name or something and also like Jo said something entirely unrelated to acknowledge the loss and then look to have a little healing/distraction time
She was 5 month pregnant.
I see well I guess if you can't visit May something warm and comforting cuz I've lost a baby and I just wanted to be under a nice blanket and be warm and stay there a reminder gift would have destroyed me at that point
Iād send a nice care / pamper package. Just stuff to treat her self with. No reminders of her loss, she doesnāt need that. Just a hey, thinking of you. Hope you like it
I had an early miscarriage and a friend visited me just after so I told her. We didn't say much on it but it felt better to talk. Not long after she sent me a self care package in the post, it had things like cozy socks, nice tea and chocolate. For me it wasn't so much what she sent, although it was really nice and I'd definitely recommend, It was the acknowledgement. Although it was early and miscarriage can be common it was still something worth being acknowledged, my baby did mean something, and it's ok to be upset and take some time to myself. I think it's a really nice thought, don't worry too much about being really meaningful, meaning can be found in the act itself.
an indoor tree. That's just sprouting
Phone calls and don't fear bringing up the baby if that works for her. Refer to baby by his/her name if there is one. Bereaved parents usually value anyone respecting that their baby was real. Perhaps a teddy bear or blanket with baby's name embroidered on it
Card. Plant. Flowers. Tea sampler. Bath salts.
I disagree with Mas. I wouldnāt bring up the baby at all. Iād ask how she is. And if she brings up the baby, then thatās fine to talk. X
As someone who lost one of my twins recently, Iād say just be there. Talk to her everyday to check in. See where sheās at..if she wants to talk about their baby or have a distraction instead. Also, sending a journal where she can record her feelings/experiencesā¦or some sort of sentimental item. If the baby was born/pictures are availableā¦if the baby has a name. Etsy has so many sweet memorable things. One thing we received that we love for our surviving twin is a bear that is our lost babyās birth weight. Itās a sweet reminder to see and hold
Everyone is different, but I def agree with mas. I love when people acknowledge our lost baby. Navigating a loss like that is hard. The grief is heavy. Personally, I wanted people to acknowledge our loss. Our baby was a person and is a part of our family regardless. Often, people shy away from addressing the uncomfortable which makes the grieving person feel uncomfortable to talk about it. I suggest bringing it up. Itās uncomfortable, but see if your friend wants to talk about it. Ask her how you can best be there for her. She may not want to talk about it yet, but then youāll know. Chances are, she needs someone to be vulnerable with
Seeing that you said you live in different states you can order her a āEdible Arrangementsā Iām not sure if you are familiar or if she has one by her but they are so cute and fun to eat they taste good to some come with flowers and they put cards and bears in them they are all different, Guessing it would be easier for you and thatās like the whole package in one .
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Iām so sorry to hear this! Maybe if you go onto Amazon & search for things that can relate to the loss as their are so many beautiful things on their. Like a mummy holding an angel baby etc. Iām sure she would love that! But, I donāt think right away sheād love those things as itāll be so hard for her!
I got two necklaces after I miscarried, one with angel wings on it (Iām atheist but loved the sentiment) & one with a shooting star on it (I saw a shooting star the night I started miscarrying) and 5 years later I still wear them both when Iām feeling a little sad. By far the best gifts.
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Maybe do an experience somewhere y'all can relax or some in home thing like a pizza oven or mozzarella cheese kit and go play with it with her nothing that reminds her of the baby she just needs to feel not alone like there's a community and folks have her back she doesn't need a death reminding momento