Identity loss

You’re definitely not alone… my partner wants to give me a break but our 6 month old only wants me after so long plus I’m ebf…. Would love to just have a day away. Plus my 4 year old is getting more clingy cause little brother is getting attention… I’m tired asf

I felt like this too but my partner supports me having time for myself. I go to the gym 4-5x a week and he will motivate me to go when I’m not up for it. Or go for a walk or meet up with friends. Could you communicate with your partner that you need some time for yourself? Sometimes they don’t realize what we need or want unless we make it clear to them. It could be something like a daily walk, time to go grab a coffee, a drive to get fresh air.

Same

@Jade same, I love breastfeeding him but he won’t take a bottle at all and my partner won’t follow the recommendations the pediatrician gave us to get him to take one. Yet he wants me to go back to work asap. He panics when baby starts crying or getting a little upset and immediately has to blame me and hand him over. This past week him and his older son both were very Ill so I was 100% on my own plus dealing with their mess around the house cuz apparently he can’t pick up after himself while sick. I’m exhausted

@Jacqueline I have communicated to him in many ways. Sometimes he will act like he wants me to go do something but then when I go to do it won’t step up and take care of baby without calling me back home within the hour. I get home and Nothing serious is wrong. It’s soo much anxiety because of this for me to go to the store or even take a shower and blow dry my hair. 😣 he doesn’t care and will try to guilt me by gaslighting me telling me other moms don’t take that sort of time to themselves and are just fine. I now understand why his last relationship ended when it did.

@Johana hugs 🫂

Even with time to myself I still feel like I’m not me, like I’m in someone else’s body. I love my daughter, and am so grateful to be able to love on her and have the opportunity to stay home with her, but I still feel like somewhere somehow I lost my identity in the process of things. I’ve had to talk with my doc several times because i felt so off. I say it’s normal for moms to go through these stages of lost, or having issues forming their new identity. Be sure to talk to your doc though! Sometimes it can be postpartum depression and or anxiety. Those hormone changes are no joke and can leave us feeling all sorts of weird.