Solids

i forgot to mention that she's sick of puree so that's not working well i have to force feed and i don't like doing that

How old is she? I would say it’s okay if she isn’t eating much solids, as long as she is getting formula too. But if she’s drinking whole milk, then I understand you being worried. It’s normal for a baby to gag and spit the food out for BLW, what I did was offer all soft, less chunky foods, like mashed potato’s, mashed sweet potatoes, really soft pasty (bigger noodles cut in half), and stuff like that. Once she is getting used to the thicker solids, you can add a little more texture to her diet. When it comes to gagging, try to remember that gagging is fine, it’s just the baby learning the textures and how much they should put in their mouths at a time. She will eat when she is hungry, just try what you can and continue to offer solids, she’ll get used to them! Good luck ❤️

Gagging is very normal! Are you trying different kinds of food? Adding spices to make it more flavorful? My son is not a fan of certain foods like most veggies, but he loves fruit, meat and peanut butter. We used puffs just to help him transition to solid food and it definitely helped! It dissolves in their mouth so no need to worry about it sitting in her mouth for hours. Of course this will not fill her up, but it can help her get used to actual solid food. You can also try making your own purees but leave it thicker/chunkier so it's a slow process to solids. You can also get a haaka fruit feeder. Put some grapes or blueberries in it and let her chew on it.

It's ok to transition gradually so you know she's getting all her calories and she gets use to chewing her food. There are days when we are busy and I'll replace a serving of veggies or fruit for a good pouch of puree that's supposed to be a serving of veggies or fruit, and that I know doesn't have too much sugar or additives. There are nights when she's not fond of the dinner we make(hates ground textures,) and we will replace the food with a pouch of serenity which has protein and veggies. Don't be hard on yourself. Every kid is different Just like us adults. Just make sure they're getting all the food groups each day. Try oat cereal for breakfast with a halved chopped up banana. Kids love bananas!

Im gonna be real with you Your putting your child at a high risk of developing an eating disorder from this in the future, from what i understand your child is 14-15 months old because you are in this group. Please for her safety as a child and as an adult in the future, let her eat solids. You are the parent you 100% control what she will eat, not the other way around. You are rasing an adult not just a toddler, thats why parenting is such a huge responsibility. In this situation I would introduce both purees and solids Almost like weaning her off purees, so its not cold turkey For example I would do soft foods like yogurt then introduce banana, then a potato, then rice and then soft chicken like slowcooked If they have teeth you shoulnt be too concerned. ❤

@Elena she's almost 15 months

@Rosemary this is my first child and i didn't know about transitioning/how to i've been trying my best until now. people pressured me into feeding solids before she was even 1 year but she just couldn't eat it. we give her lots of pieces of solids every day for months, i give her fruits, toast, rice, pasta, cooked veggies, meat is a hit or miss and she eats it. we also give her the dissolvable snacks she likes those too. but when i sit her down and try to give her a plate she just wont eat it. thanks for your suggestion anyways and mine didn't get any teeth until she was 12 months so that was another issue too

Please don't defend yourself. You've done nothing wrong! People need to stop with the judging and just simply help!

I started solids early because my daughter was super interested in food. I started with soft foods like potatoes, pasta noodles and yogurt and gradually gave her more food but mashed them and now I just cut it up into small pieces. There’s no right or wrong way to do blw. Do what works for you and your baby.

i wish i could have someone come help me for a few days at my house while my daughter transitions, i feel like i've failed and i'm overwhelmed

https://www.childrensmn.org/educationmaterials/childrensmn/article/18018/moving-past-purees/#:~:text=Offer%20soft%20foods%20that%20have,better%20tongue%20movement%20for%20chewing.

Its ok, having a picky eater is stressful AF. We offer solids first and puree after if she doesn't eat well. Is she teething? Tooth pain can be a factor. How are her poops? If they aren't regular or aren't soft then sometimes the stomach spasms when they start eating and causes discomfort. Getting any constipation under control can be helpful. My kiddo eventually liked scrambled eggs (not at first), Mac and cheese, and berries. It took awhile to find her safe foods, and it definitely freaked me out when she wouldn't eat much. Our doctor says if she's still getting milk, still gaining weight, and eating a good amount over the full week it's ok if she has a day or two where she doesn't eat much, as freaky as that is as a mom