To have a third?

I can't help at all with this as we are in the exact same boat 🙃 I just wanted to say you are not alone. I'd love a third. My husbands worried it'll cause a rift as our youngest would become a middle child. Our house is big enough, but would need a change of car to fit 3 kids comfortably, like you said 2 means if both are ill or upset there's a parent each to comfort. Holidays go into a whole new category. All my family have 2 kids so we do get some funny looks when we say we're happy to have a 3rd. The costs would jump, both now with nappies etc but also when they go to school. If a school trip is £340, times that by 3 🤦🏼‍♀️ I really would love a 3rd. We are going to wait until our youngest is 2 and really sit down to see how our family is, what impacts it would have to the boys, finances (both now and thinking about retirement) etc

I felt the exact same as you for a couple of years! We have 2 girls only 20 months apart, and they are super close. We always felt our family wasn't truly complete, but we're very happy with our family unit. Money and the '3rd child syndrome' made us stop with our two. My youngest is now 3 and we are pregnant without our third, and although we were happy as we were, we instantly just felt our family was finished. It's really hard to explain the feeling 🙈

Our girls will be 5 and 4 when little man arrives and they are so excited and I'm actually loving them being a little older as they understand what is happening and are very much involved with the process which is amazing! To be blunt. There is no right answer. There is never enough money. There is never enough time to divide between kids equally and never enough support, BUT as parents, we always make it work. We always find a way and as long as our kids feel loved and safe, whether we have 1 or 5 then we have done a cracking job! I do believe that we don't regret the kids we have but can spend years longing for the ones we don't. Whatever you do, it will be the right decision for you, and that's all that matters 🥰

I’ve thought about having a third mostly because I want a girl, but since my youngest is only 8 months, I’m waiting before trying to make any decisions.

I have a 2 & a half year old, an 8 month old & I’m 24 weeks pregnant with my 3rd so I’ll end up having 3 under 3 with a 21 month age gap between 1 & 2 & around a 12 month age gap between 2 & 3! All 3 are boys & tbh we were gonna wait at least 2 years until we had a discussion on whether to have a 3rd but I got pregnant due to contraceptive failure so we decided to just go for it 😂 3 was our absolute max but tbh I really want a girl so we may revisit the idea of another one in a few years but honestly a lot of places seem to have family of 3, 4 & 5 tickets/deals it’s any bigger than that that isn’t usually catered for & there’s no guarantee that even with an even number of kids that they’ll get along with each other so an odd number shouldn’t be an issue. The biggest difficulties in having 3 is finding the right car, fitting car seats that can all go in the back seat at the same time & having 3 with a close age gap but you find a way around everything no matter how many kids you have