"If this coat was just a regular coat to me I'd loan it out but because I really love this coat I'm going to have to say no. I'd be so heartbroken if it got damaged or lost or something and we end up fighting about a coat I should not have loaned out since it means so much to me. It's just not worth the risk for me. I hope you're able to put together a different outfit you like."
Don’t reply or say you’re using it lol
Hard NO
Or you could even say something like “if your date really likes you he’s not gonna care of your coat matches your outfit” 🙃 But Chris’s response is nicer …
Just tell her no, you don’t really owe her an explanation. I wouldn’t tell her no then explain all these reasons though. Seems a bit harsh over a coat.