Irrational rage over husband getting to have hobbies.
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Find a hobby, workout class, plan a girls night, etc. and ask him to watch the baby for those few hours while you go. You deserve a break too!
Totally relate to this post. My husband goes to the gym daily. Meanwhile I'm stuck at home so I try to fit in baby and mommy yoga and try to read a book. He watches her in the evening so I can cook or meditate /read my book etc so I'm thinking of fitting in a park walk or run once the weather gets better...
Unless u get to go out on your own too then u should but if u aren’t able to then this is so unfair n I would not tolerate this.
What if he had ONE game night a week and the other was your night? Seems fair to me 🤷♀️
Apart of the job if mother I guess it would seem but it doesn't have to be this way you need to leave baby with daddy for even just an hour so you can do something for yourself, a nice hobby of something you love or something new. I wouldn't leave my baby with anyone even partner for over a year and now my little. One is tow I have lots of hobbies again and I feel happier. Please find time for yourself and get some balance going.
What @Nazaneen said. We have to demand our time away, they can offer but they can’t make it happen for us- that needs to be us that pulls through. So, look for a hobby. Go find some fitness classes and tell him, on this day at this time I’m going zumba/Pilates/spin/heels/salsa class. Make time w gfs and tell him, you’re going to go see this person at this time for dinner/drinks or just popping over to theirs. If I don’t plan my own time away, it’ll never happen. Because only I can do that for myself. The time of “pumping” is also a season. It’s temporary. If you can’t now because you’re pumping every 2-3hrs, make a goal for when you DO stop, and tell him that. But in the meantime, 2-3hrs away seeing a gf is much more attainable. So do that. I have my salsa, and I see a gf nearly every week. Usually a sahm during the day w the babies/kids, and one at night where I can put my dress and heels and lippy on, and blast up my Reggaeton otw there (and back) because, car is kid free 💁🏻♀️
Yup find yourself a hobby and say "I'm out tonight, here you, go hold this" hand him baby and it's his turn! My partner games most nights, I just go in and take him baby. I have learnt that most men need specific instructions. Or batch cook, then that time he would be watching so you can cook he can watch while you leave the house and do something
Get your husband involved in the baby’s care. I can leave the house for a whole day and my husband is able to care for the baby. You deserve a break to do things. A break that does not involve chores or taking care of basic human needs like showering or eating, but time to relax and recharge however you see fit.
Yes, everything said so far. I would just like to add that your hobby should be out of the house. Away from hubby and baby. It helps clear the mind and give you peace. Out of the house kind of puts an off-limits sign on you, while at the house, it's easier to disturb you. Plus, it feels good to get dressed up and get out of the house by yourself.
Have you spoken to him about how unequal things are in your relationship? 2 days a week is excessive. He can give up a day to you to have me time.
It's okay to hand him the baby and run for a while, Mama. You will get burnt out if you keep doing everything