Concerned teen mom

I had my son at 17, definitely not an easy task but for me it was worth it, feel free to message me and chat about a bit more because there really is a lot to it in a decision like this

Feel free to message me if you’d like. I’m going to be honest and say it depends on your situation, your parents, and whether or not they’re going to be supportive. It also depends on what you want and what you can handle. Pregnancy, parenthood, and abortions are not simple and easy tasks or decisions nor are they one size fits all answers.

Got pregnant at 17 & gave birth a day before my 18th. The choice to keep my son was not an easy decision and being a mum isn’t an easy task however it is rewarding . My son is my world and 100% saved me in a couple different ways however everyone’s circumstances are different I think you need to make the best decision for yourself x

I had my 1st at 19, feel free to message

Do you mean you have just found out you’re pregnant and are scared to tell your parents, or you have had a baby and dating someone new and scared to tell your parents? Is the guy the same age as you?

I got pregnant at 15 and had her a month after my 16th birthday it was really hard doing it alone, but we persevered it’s hard to balance getting a daycare and having a job and putting a roof over your head and them and food in their bellies and yours, but it’s definitely doable as long as you never give up, you can message me if you want but you have plenty of time to make this decision regardless if your parents are happy or not about it this is your choice to make, and the state does help a lot. My 👩 Mother was there for me, but my dad was really upset for a while but eventually he came around and my daughter is almost 6 and he loves her very much usually at the beginning. They’re very unhappy about it but usually come around.

As a teen mom it’s terrifying and all the emotions you are going through while young just makes it worse. In my opinion I wasn’t able to be young and hot anymore I had to step up and be a mom and work it’s so hard to provide and support for a child while being a child even if the babies father is in the picture ultimately it all falls on the mom it’s a life decision for the mom meanwhile a dad can walk away and if your parents decide to support you they will ruin your mental health with the judgment for a long time till they get over it and fighting that while In postpartum is shit. But if you have a good and well off family and if they are willing to support you it will be easier but you’ll never be able to be young and do what you used to do until you are able to provide and support your baby and everyone will hold that over you including yourself

Can I give you the perspective of a 41-year-old first time mum? Having a baby turns your whole world upside down. It’s like throwing a live grenade into your life. Every decision you make, every tiny little thing, you now have to consider how it’s going to affect this little person who is entirely dependent on you for all their needs. I’m married and I’ve been with my husband for nearly 15 years and it’s put a huge strain on our relationship which has always been extremely loving and stable. So, will you be able to go out drinking and have fun with your friends? Will you be able to get an education, pursue the career you want? That will all depend massively on your support network. Will you still be young? Yes. And probably with a lot of growing up to do. However, it’s not all negative. You and your kid will be pretty close in age so you’ll have a greater understanding of what life is like for them when they’re at school and being bullied over TikTok (or whatever).

A family member was pregnant at 18, her mother wanted her to get an abortion. On the way to the could she could not go through with it. She now has a lovely 16 year old daughter. My family member is now nearly qualified as a midwife. You will need support but you can still thrive as a young mum. All the best

I’m currently pregnant I’m 19 I found out 4 days before my 19th birthday I still live at my dads my partner does live with me but my dad was definitely not a fan of my partner what so ever I told him I was pregnant and he didn’t talk about it he didn’t even really respond to me but a couple weeks went by and he has come round to the idea and he knows that it’s mine and my partners decision and we don’t expect him to do anything for this baby as it’s our responsibility and he is now very excited to be a grandad to my son who will be here in March send me message if you wanna talk at all it can be a scary situation xx

When you’re my age, you’ll be able to take them down the pub. Think of me with my bad knees and bad back, pushing a pram with my old ass. You’ll have so much more energy as a parent and then when you hit your late 30s/early 40s you’ll get your freedom back again. There’s a lot to think about. But if you are sure you want this baby, I’d get your family on side as soon as possible. You’re gonna need their help and sooner or later they are gonna find out anyway, so it’s best to bite the bullet and give them a chance to get used to it.

Hii, i was pregnant with my daughter at 16 and had her at 17. She’s currently 2 months old and if i’m being honest having a kid and trying to still be a kid can be challenging. But if u plan right and have a good support system it works good. with my parents i was thinking the worse when i told them i was pregnant, i was so afraid and thought they would basically disown me lmao. but they turned out really supportive. what i’m saying is don’t be afraid to tell them. and honestly if things go wrong you can text me and we can chat and talk since we are close in age. having a newborn can be challenging but it’s fun and the memories and moments are so amazing.

And it’s all your decision whether or not you want to keep the baby or not. don’t let anyone change ur mind or make u feel shitty.

I had my daughter on my 18th birthday, so over 11 years ago. It was not easy. It was life changing. You need to be prepared to do everything it takes for you both to survive. In saying that though, my daughter is my best friend and she’s at an age now where we can hang out and do things and because of her, I was never ever alone again. I obviously wouldn’t recommend bringing a child into the world without stability (as I did this, I was a mess). As it does affect the child seeing you struggle. But I don’t regret a thing. I couldn’t have imagined my life any other way. Whatever you choose to do, goodluck. And I’m sending you all my love. You aren’t the first teen mama, you certainly won’t be the last! But be ready to become the strongest person you know 🫶🏽🤍

your always welcome to message me! i found out i was pregnant at 16 and im now 18, it isnt easy i wont lie but its the most rewarding thing ive ever done!

I had my first son at 18 if your parents love you they will support you. With the freedom thing you probably won’t be able to do stuff you want to do on your own, I was lucky I got quite a lot of freedom when I wanted to do stuff with friends like on a Friday or Saturday. Honestly tho I found being a parent easier when I was younger than now I had my 2nd son at 32 and I don’t have the energy like I used to.

So most likely ur parents will give u a talking to when u tell them lol but to answer ur question, definitely not an easy task. You need a village tbh. And you gotta think about it love, from the sounds of it it maybe looks like you would be a single mom? But it doesn’t mean single moms CANT do the dang thing! Me personally, being a mother is the absolute best thing that could have happened to me and there’s no better love. But you just really have to think about it all. About still being “young” after having a baby, you can most definitely still travel, and go out but you have to always put baby first and find time. It’s difficult but not impossible. Just a lot to think about love, u got this ♥️💪🏼

Think first if you can handle being a single mom at 18 cuz it seems like this situation is already unstable. See if you can emotionally handle open adoption/ abortion.My take is if you know deep down Whatever decision you make you’ll have some sort of pain but just see which one you’re willing to handle. Also keep these things away from your friends cuz they be the most judgemental ones

I’m 21 in a week but I had my first at 18 and am now pregnant with #2 it’s a hard decision and without a support system it can be rough but it’s so rewarding and to provide what I didn’t have as a kid it makes me smile everyday

I was 19 when I had my daughter. My parents were extremely disappointed and were angry but they came around. Surprisingly, it upset my mother more than my father. They both loved her so much. My mom got diagnosed with cancer the day after my daughter was born and died 9 months later, but my daughter was the absolute light of her life. She adored her. I’m very lucky, my parents let me and my baby’s dad live in the basement and we’re able to stay for another year or two. It is still the hardest thing I’ve ever done and it completely changes your life. There may be short moments where you can be young but no, that is put to the side for now. You don’t have the time to go out with friends or to parties or this or that. I’m only a year in and I feel like I will be able to do more when I stop breastfeeding. This is the hardest thing ever. It took me up until now to mostly accept what happened and I wouldn’t change it at all. I love my daughter so much I cannot imagine a world without her.

On my last few days ha but your decision keep or not but you need have a good mindset it gets stressful x