Those who are wanting a second baby do you have the fear of mum guilt? Having to share yourself with another? Not being able to experience being a mum for the first time with the newborn etc as you will have another to care for? I’m having all these though. I’m on the pill and planning to come off in April.. it took 2 years to conceive my LO so want to give myself plenty of time. Or those who have more then one how to did you find it with sharing your love, and going from one bubba to two? Xx
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I do, i know i would like another baby but i would like my boy to be atleast 4 because i want him to be able to understand, he will be in school and because i want to give my relationship time to heal after becoming partners xx

I had a 17 month gap and it’s lovely and I don’t think the older one remembers life without her xx

My toddler was 22 months when baby #2 was born. Initially it was hard adjusting because you are almost mourning a relationship that has changed. But it gets easier for sure once you figure out a routine for the newborn, meaning you get lots of 1:1 time with the eldest. Just make sure the eldest has good sleeping habits before bubba arrives. Looking after a baby again is super easy as you are experienced and know how to do it. Its the juggling act that is very difficult
I always said this, wanted my first to be in school so that you still get that quality time with the second etc, but we had two long years and two losses to concieve my LO so it worries me to wait incase we have similar experience x
a lot of people who I know who have 2 under 2 say the same xx
oh congratulations 🤍🤍 my LO has actually just started to becoming very caring towards cuddly toys and smaller baby’s so it will be so lovely for you to see them together xx
it all just sounds so scary,. But as mum I guess we do just adjust. I just have this dreaded fear that I can’t love two baby’s the way I love my little one now xx

Oh darling, it will be okay, when your ready try xx