Boyfriend’s mom

I’m almost 37 weeks and my baby shower is this weekend. My family is traveling from all over the world to be here for one day and his own mom won’t even show up for stupid reasons and she lives 15 minutes away. Mind you she knew about this since September. I’m starting not to like her but I just need some advice on how to just tolerate her because once my baby is here I’m not going to be with the bull shit anymore respectfully.
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She will regret not being there. I'm sure your family will wonder where she is, and I would be honest with them because it doesn't look good on her, and it's the truth. After the baby shower, I wouldn't mention anything because if she cared to know, she would show up and just keep it moving. You have a baby on the way who needs you. Don't let other people's insecurities take away from your happiness for the sake of your baby. Take care of yourself ❤️

I agree with above. Do not under any circumstance cover for her. Tell everyone the truth when they ask where she is. You shouldn’t put up with the bullshit now because once baby comes you’re going to be overwhelmed, tired, in pain, stressed and she WILL without a doubt try to add to that. You’re going to be so mentally overloaded when baby comes that you’re either going to lower ur boundaries cause it’s easier, or snap and cause a war. Set the boundaries now, so they aren’t a surprise later. 🩷

Have him talk to her in person about how it would mean a lot to you and him if she could figure out a way to be there. Big red flag if she still does not come.

i agree with all other commenters. im so sorry this is happening, but im glad your family is showing! dont let it ruin ur day, and spend time with those who love you 💕 congratulations mama

@Jayden I sent her a message and she still isn’t coming she claims the shower is a show off and it isn’t like the birth. I just gave up.

Ouuu I would let her know not to expect to be at the birth, if you can't show up to the shower... like huh???

@Rainbow right. Who knows if she’ll show up to that. She keeps saying it’s not her first grandchild but I honestly stopped caring cause I know my family will be there for my baby no matter what. I just feel bad because it’s his family

this being said i would say she cant come to the birth 😭 petty gets petty back

Oh so she is going to the birth? I’d say heck no to that. Trust me, if she isn’t willing to celebrate you at a baby shower you are not going to want her in the delivery room. I only had my husband with me and I would not have it any other way.

My dad didn’t even congratulate me on my daughter’s birth. Honestly i was devastated but he’s the only one that’s gonna miss out. My daughter won’t be missing him exactly like your LO won’t be missing their nan/ grandma x

Just say I'm not sure where she is when asked and carry on. Her lose.

@Jayden I planned to have her there but she messed it up so I just chose my mom to be there for a little extra support just in case my bf passes out lol. I’m about to stop letting her get to me. She says she loves me and does stuff like this. My version of love is very different.

I think my baby is cute and looks like his dad, but his dad definitely looks like a gargoyle sometimes 😅

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