Upset.
I’m a nurse and I work night shifts. It’s honestly the best thing I could’ve done work night shift so I don’t struggle with child care and I get to be with my baby more during the day. The thing is now my baby has gotten used to sleeping w my mom and she doesn’t want to sleep with me anymore. When I try, she throws a tantrum and cries for her grandma and then she ends up going to sleep w my mom. I mean it’s okay I finally get to rest on my own, but I feel bad because I want to let my mom sleep comfortably too since she wakes up early for work and I want to cuddle with my baby :( Last night I went to get her once she fell asleep and I’ve been doing that, but she woke up crying for her grandma and left. it’s only at night that she literally doesn’t want nothing to do with me, during the day she all on me. she’s 2 yr old and my mom told me she’ll grow up and understand more. But it just upsets me and I feel like she doesn’t like me anymore. I’m her mom.
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My son only wants his dad. When he's working night shift it's so hard to get him to sleep because he keeps crying for his daddy. Some nights he even pushes me out of his bed and puts himself to sleep
I would work towards getting her to sleep independently in her own room and you’d feel less guilty and you would all get better sleep xx
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So, I don't have a 2 year old yet, but as I understand it, toddlers get very stuck in routine - it's not personal, it's not about who is doing the routine, it's just that "A -->B", they get stuck on that, and they can't get past it. In your daughter's case, she's probably stuck on "grandma --> sleep." She can't get her mind past that association. I'm not sure how to break it but I have something similar going on with my 14mo, who is stuck on an association of dad with bedtime and me with nap time. She absolutely will not let me put her to bed. It has to be dad. But come nap time, dad can't do that, either. I wonder if maybe just integrating yourself more into her nighttime might somehow work, if that's possible. But if it's not, then it's definitely not a personal thing, it's not that she doesn't want you - she's just stuck in the association that she's always known.