How do I talk to my husband about being home when I need him home

Say that^^

Dang 6 or 7 mine wouldn't come home till 12 1 2 or 3 am 🥴😬 now we don't even live together. I genuinely don't even know why I keep taking him back. But leaving you knowingly because they'll be home... tell me you didn't really want kids without telling me you really didn't want kids. But also, have you discussed things deeper like asked him why he felt the need to leave all those hours is he struggling with something? Is he feeling upset and doesn't want that energy around them? Does he just not like being a dad and the responsibilities that entails? Or entertaining them?

@Kelly Mae he literally just hates being home he rather go out and do things with me when our kids are in school then be around me when they are home. I feel like he doesn’t want to be a father but wants the title of a father if you get what I’m saying

You’re a single mom at this point. He’s either gotta shape up or ship out. He can’t have it both ways. It’s not fair to you or the kids. Even if you don’t say anything the kids know. The kids know dad doesn’t show up or can’t go to dad. That’s fucked up.

@Angela yes mines the same. Literally makes it about us says he loves our daughter and wants to be there. But also said if im not with him in a relationship he won't be a dad. 🙄 like the selfish audacity. She's 9 months and barely recognizes him.

@courtney I have been married to him for almost 9 years and I’m afraid to leave cause he is just gonna say that I used him for his money and that dont really care about him and all that. I literally have to depends on him I only have 19 dollars to my name and that comes from the housing I live in they give me a utility allowance and and I just sold 2 hoodies for like 2 bucks. So I really don’t have money I have looked for jobs but no one’s wants to hire me cause I don’t have reliable transportation.

@Angela have you looked into remote work or other means of income like baby/pet sitting? It doesn’t really matter what he says bc it sounds like he’s projecting. He’s using you for domestic work and childcare, he’s saved thousands if not more by keeping you there. You just said you don’t even have reliable transportation, I’m assuming you don’t leave the house without his express permission.

@courtney I don’t have my license so that’s why I don’t have reliable transportation and everywhere around me everyone wants it done in their home and since I can’t drive that doesn’t work with me

Get a job a daycare you can bring the kids with and the ones who can’t go will be at school. Or even get a job at school! They are always hiring for assistants as long as you can pass background check you should be good to go. Not having a car or any money is a terrible feeling when you’re relying on someone who doesn’t care :/ so sorry girl . It’s not fair the amount of pressure moms are under 24^7 🫂

@Angela get a license then, you don’t need a car to be able to legally drive. You can get a car eventually but one step at a time. It’s important to be able to legally drive in general just in case you ever had to drive someone else’s car or in an emergency