in In a relationship but basically doing on your own.

How do I talk to my husband about being home when I need him home

My husband leaves when he knows our kids are gonna be home from school he go to his moms or just runs around and doesn’t come home to help me. But at the end of the day he expects me to have sex with him but I’m here at home with 4 kids day in and day out don’t get a break unless they are all in school but even then I don’t get a break I have house chores to do every day. Like when should I just say forget this marriage? I’m doing it own my own now. Why don’t I do it on my own with out him in my life. I did say to him that he always leaves right before the kids get home he knows when they will be home and he just leaves and is out until 6 or 7 at night. I’m over feeling like I’m a house maid and a mother to 5 kids when I’m a mother to only 4

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Dang 6 or 7 mine wouldn't come home till 12 1 2 or 3 am 🥴😬 now we don't even live together. I genuinely don't even know why I keep taking him back. But leaving you knowingly because they'll be home... tell me you didn't really want kids without telling me you really didn't want kids. But also, have you discussed things deeper like asked him why he felt the need to leave all those hours is he struggling with something? Is he feeling upset and doesn't want that energy around them? Does he just not like being a dad and the responsibilities that entails? Or entertaining them?

@Kelly Mae he literally just hates being home he rather go out and do things with me when our kids are in school then be around me when they are home. I feel like he doesn’t want to be a father but wants the title of a father if you get what I’m saying

You’re a single mom at this point. He’s either gotta shape up or ship out. He can’t have it both ways. It’s not fair to you or the kids. Even if you don’t say anything the kids know. The kids know dad doesn’t show up or can’t go to dad. That’s fucked up.

@Angela yes mines the same. Literally makes it about us says he loves our daughter and wants to be there. But also said if im not with him in a relationship he won't be a dad. 🙄 like the selfish audacity. She's 9 months and barely recognizes him.

@courtney I have been married to him for almost 9 years and I’m afraid to leave cause he is just gonna say that I used him for his money and that dont really care about him and all that. I literally have to depends on him I only have 19 dollars to my name and that comes from the housing I live in they give me a utility allowance and and I just sold 2 hoodies for like 2 bucks. So I really don’t have money I have looked for jobs but no one’s wants to hire me cause I don’t have reliable transportation.

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