Abortion: For and against?

I personally am against abortion, because it’s been a longg time for me trying to conceive and finally have my miracle baby via IVF 😊, so another baby would be like a double gift. even before I was against abortion, I felt so sorry to stop a little life inside of me. But I don’t judge other women’s who have a different view, their body their choice, their circumstances.

I’m pro abortion access which inherently means I’m pro choice, doesn’t mean I advocate that every one should get abortions. Therefore why would I berate anybody for holding a different view? Might I perhaps question them on the logic that upholds that view? Absolutely! will I judge them by their answer? Not in a meaningful way LMFAO I also don’t set out to change minds, I just have curiosity & like knowing things (:

I’m pro it’s not my business

I am against abortion in a way like I’d never have an abortion cos I can’t but if another woman choose to have one? That’s her body, her life and her choice. It is not my or anyone’s business because at the end of the day everyone has a choice so I’d never ever judge. Cos I do not know their situation. But I will judge if the it is being used as a birth control or even if u have done it bout three times.

@Ebunoluwa so personally I have had 3 abortions. I fell pregnant TWICE whilst on birth control (yes I was taking correctly and timely) and once while not, however it would have been cruel to bring a child into the world while financially we couldn’t support it and our living situation was not ideal. So based on your comment, should that mean I’m judged or make me a bad person?

Pro-choice. That being said, I personally wouldn’t be able to go through with one.

Personally I feel if a women is been raped or in a DV relationship or find out the baby was so disabled it wouldn’t have have any life then yes absolutely. I know a lot of people they use it as a form of birth control and feel these people need to be educated. I mean I wouldn’t judge anyone for it but when you see a heart beat at 6 weeks that’s tough as that’s a living being not just cells. But as I say just cause that’s my opinion doesn’t mean others shouldn’t have own opinion x

I’m pro choice because I have had one myself. I really do think that the cut off time should be 12 weeks latest

…who uses it as birth control? That’s outrageous.

I'd say pro choice. It's the woman's body. They should decide to abort or keep. When woman gets raped or taken advantage of and find out they are pregnant they should choose to keep the baby or not to.

I personally couldn’t go through with an abortion for myself but I am very, very pro choice, especially since becoming a mother. No one should be forced through pregnancy, childbirth and raising a child unless they want to. I also don’t have any say in what other women do with their bodies and to say otherwise would be insane to me.

I would never berate someone for a choice that doesn’t affect anyone but THEM.

Based on your situation no I wouldn’t cos it was not your fault as you were on birth control. I commented based on my experience I know some people personally who had abortion more than 4 times cos they don’t enjoy sex without condom but also can’t take bc because it is not good for the body

Just as a general PSA, there’s really no need to include whether you personally would or would not have an abortion when staying you’re pro choice (I used to do the same thing, I’m not trying to be obnoxious, I promise). It’s still claiming some sort of moral superiority that just isn’t necessary. Obviously everyone is free to post whatever they like, but just something to think about. Also none of us can say 100% what we would do in many, many situations we’ve never personally experienced.

@Ebunoluwa okay, that’s just plain wrong 😩

For me, it was a case of becoming pregnant while being MY choice at the RIGHT time. I have had a child, but I have also chosen to abort pregnancies due to being at a time when I was actively avoiding it through birth control. Another was soon after giving birth (via C-section) so was not in a safe position to be pregnant/give birth again so soon nor financially able to support a second child so soon after the first. I guess you could say I’m super fertile. There are so many reasons why someone would want to (or not want to for that matter) but unless you have walked a day in that person’s shoes I don’t believe one should pass judgement. Don’t get me wrong, the guilt is there! However, it outweighs the guilt felt if bringing a child into the world was against my own wants or if it would put strain on finances or quality of life.

I’m all for abortion. I terminated 2 pregnancies when I was a teenager cuz I was not abt to be somebodys baby mama and certainly not a teen mom. That was not going to be my story cuz I just ignorant abt sex & a horny teenager who wanted to escape her problems by having sex. Giving myself away to my so called boyfriends who didn’t even deserve me or deserve to be fathers! So not only did I make the mistake of having an unplanned pregnancy once bt twice! Smh 🤦🏾‍♀️ my first pregnancy was around 2005, I was 15 yrs old! my 2nd pregnancy was In 2009 and I was 18. If I would have kept those pregnancies, I can’t imagine having an 20 yr old & an 18yr old and I turned 34 in November of last yr. I literally have no regrets cuz I cringe 😬 everytime I think abt that. I’m so grateful & thankful by the grace of God, I went thru my 20s without any mistakes of unplanned pregnancy cuz that wud have been terrible for me. I decided to finally become a mom at 30 & I’m very happy with my choices! #pro-choice

I’m pro choice because women are going to get rid of the baby whether it’s legal or not. I’d rather women who decide to have an abortion should be able to have access to it in clean doctor environments instead of throwing themselves down the stairs or using a coat hanger. Making abortion illegal won’t get rid of abortions it’ll get rid of safe abortions. I haven’t had one. I probably won’t get one. I’m a Christian and I feel for my fellow women and they deserve access to healthcare.

Pro choice always 🫶🏼

I don't think someone should be forced to carry a baby they do not want because at the end of the day they will be the one to care for the child or the child will be put through care and I think having a child you regret or putting a child through the system can both be mentally detrimental to the child as well as the mother

@Ash This! 👏🏼 There are so many outside factors and reasons others won’t be aware of which can effect someone’s choice. It’s not black and white! There are the considerations of a young life being impacted as well as the life of a mother (or parents) which could take a negative effect if subjected to an unwanted pregnancy. This is why I respect everyone has their own views and opinions, but I ask not to judge without knowing every detail of another’s life and choice.

Is there anyone here whose opinion on this matter has actually changed, or they’ve grown to understand, based on hearing the stories and arguments from an opposing side?

I was actually pro-life when I was a teenager. I think just hearing more about it, especially from women’s personal perspectives, and actually going through pregnancy, childbirth and motherhood changed my mind. Now I’m ashamed I ever thought that way.

@Levi you should never feel ashamed! We are shaped by our experiences and we continue to grow throughout our lives. Having a particular view as a teen does not mean we should carry that into adulthood. We’re allowed to change and grow as people.

@Taylor literally no one. People just say this shit and swear their cousin’s neighbor’s friend does

Pro life + pro choice. I support the outcome no matter what..

Pro-choice. I was ALWAYS someone who said “I’d never get an abortion but if someone else did then that’s their choice”… until I was put in the position where I would’ve had to raise a child at 18 with someone who I didn’t love and didn’t trust to support a child financially or emotionally. I thought it would be cruel to bring a child into that kind of life. Now I have 2 wonderful children with my fiancé who is an incredible father who I trust and love and does everything to ensure my babies have a good life

Pro choice. I would only judge a woman who can’t figure out how to put themselves on birth control and use an abortion as such.

@Levi I could’ve written this

I don't have to have an abortion if I don't want to. But I always want others have the right to do so if they want/need to do it.

Pro-choice, always have been always will be. I personally find 'pro-life' more pro-forced birth, it's extremely rare to find someone who actually cares about the life that is being born, the type of life they might have, the type of love or abuse they might receive from parents who didn't want them or entering into an already over run system.

I’m pro life

& um for me people are entitled to have their own views just as I am. Berating other individuals for their personal views/ stances that vary from my own is not really my style same with judging. To be clear I do judge & think that everyone does judge or must to an extent weather they do so often or not but for me personally it’s not something that I need to engage in doing excessively or at all unless warranted. As far as the variation of my stance goes it has wavered back and forth particularly while in college during undergrad but I’ve been pro life for the greater part of my life since I was a little girl.

As a teenager I was vehemently pro life and thought abortion was the highest and biggest sin anyone could ever commit! But then in college at 19, I found myself pregnant, while I was happy to be pregnant and thought I'd have this fantastic life with my then boyfriend, he had much different ideas and actually was telling his friends he didn't love me and didn't want me having his kids. I was devastated obviously and didn't know what to do. I told my mom and she told me if I kept the baby , I couldn't live at home (she also didn't like my then boyfriend so that didn't help) i had no job and being that I was about to be homeless I made the devastating decision to abort. My then boyfriend came with me and my mom and I had the procedure done. We parted ways after that and from then my mind was completely changed on the whole subject. I am solidly pro choice now. I do still sometimes wonder about that baby, and who they could've been but I don't dwell on it too much anymore. I have 3 beautiful kids now and Im happy

As somebody who has PCOS and struggled for four years to get pregnant in my 20s, i will always be pro-choice. I had two miscarriages a year apart, one in 2020, one in 2021, and thankfully i could get the care i needed to be safe. Granted, i am in canada and our access isnt being limited by laws, but instead by a shortage of doctors but thats another story. My heart goes out to every single person, both with children and without, who have to make that decision on whether or not a pregnancy and parenthood are the right choice for them, no matter the timing and no matter the reason, and if any of you have had to have a late term abortion (termination for medical reasons) for ANY REASON, my heart bleeds for you. Be safe out there everyone.

@Haley if you haven’t seen it or experienced it doesn’t mean it’s doesn’t happen

Pro choice, pro access & pro women! ✌️

I think anyone should have access to abortion. I personally wouldn’t, but I ain’t a hater 🤍

I would only judge and berate a woman who actively wants to force her views on me and my body.

Pro choice but that being said there have to be 2 conditons for moral reasons. Termination as soon as ppssible, latest at 12 weeks unless some horrid abnormality is found later on and always keep the embryo. I would never trust what happens with it afterall and would not want it to be used for scientific research.

I'm 100% pro-life. I do noticed though, that most people on this app will ask, and when you say against abortion they get mad and accuse you of forcing your views on others. It's like the question is being asked, but they only want one answer.

@Lea (name changed).. I have yet to see anyone on this particular post getting mad at a pro-lifer. The only concern is those who have pro-life views and make snap judgments to pro-choicers without taking into account personal experiences or reasoning, and just take it at face value.

For me the argument looks like this: Are you pro bodily autonomy and people being free to make choices that affect them and their families? Or Are you pro forced birth and believe everyone who gets pregnant must be made to give birth no matter the circumstances?

Pro-choice 100%, everyone has the right to make the right decision for them, their body and their circumstances. Nobody has the right to berate another person just because their choices don’t line up with somebody else’s.

having a daughter made me more pro choice than i was before. I would always want her to have full autonomy over her own body

Exactly I think everyone's situation is different and to say everyone should be made to have their baby is just ignorant, just because it ends well for some doesn't mean it ends well for everybody I think if they were more socially acceptable our social care system wouldn't be so full and kids would only be going to homes that actually wanted them

@Madeline I was the same. Having been pro-choice all of my life (having my first 2 abortions, while taking birth control, before wanting children) I really thought that having my first child would change my mind and make me more pro-life seeing what that embryo eventually turns into. However, I also realised how all I wanted for my child was to give them the best life we could possibly provide and so when I found myself pregnant again shortly after birth I realised my view had not changed at all given I was not in a position to fully provide for another at that time.

I don’t believe in abortion except for a specific reason. Don’t wanna hear any argument because it’s MY opinion. A woman should be allowed to choose what happens to HER body but I don’t think it’s right for someone to have as many as they want just because they aren’t/ can’t be bothered being safe which does happen If there is a good reason of whatever matter I think yes

@Jackie Not arguing, I'm just generally curious about your response, if you're happy to reply. Wouldn't someone who can't be bothered to take bc or use protection be one of the main people who actually need access to abortions? If they can't be mature enough to use protection and are getting or trying to access multiple abortions because of this, what type of parenting would they be able to provide? Or do you think it would just be a case of them adding multiple children into the adoption system?

@Jackie what would examples of a ‘good reason’ be in your eyes? Or a ‘specific’ reason as you say? I’m only asking as obviously it’s all relative, and there could be reasons which hadn’t even crossed mine or your mind for example.