Is this weird or am I over sensitive?

My partner adds his ex’s - not all just a particular 2, on every fb account he makes. We’ve been together just over 3 years, have a home, daughter and dog together. Talking about getting ready for baby number 2. But This one ex is from 13 years ago. Before me and my partner got together we were really good friends for years so I heard all the stories about all the exes with no filter. He didn’t break up with her, his first love, she had kids before she got with him, he was never a dad role in their life or even had a bond with them from what he’s always told me. But she’s always in the background. Messages from a council tax bill in her name she sent to him with bailiffs because they lived together. He never tells me if and when she messages him or visa versa. The other ex. She’s always trying to stay relevant. Asking for money throughout our relationship off him. They were once engaged. He tells me all the time how he took her to the most romantic place in the world and blah blah blah but in arguments he threatens to break up with me. At Christmas he was leaving me because I called him Scrooge. My point is. He knows I don’t like it. I’ve made it clear many times. But he still does it. He said it would be weird if he took her off. To me that tells me he cares more about hurting her feelings than mine. They’re not friends. I don’t get it. Am I overthinking or is it weird? I’m getting red flag vibes tbh

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It’s very disrespectful in my opinion. Unless they have kids together there is no point in being friends with an ex on a social media app. None of my exes need to be looking at what I have going on. That’s very strange that he is so adamant of keeping her on there. Also why is an ex asking your partner for money? She needs to figure it out.

That is weird but is there any reason you guys aren't married? You guys have a home together, dog and kid, and trying to have another but aren't legally committed. And then the fact that he's still dealing with exes and threatening to break up and leave, I'd be concerned that he's not truly devoted to your relationship or what you guys have.

Definitely weird and it does seem like he cares more about their feelings then yours.

Sorry but that’s not a man. With a family and a home and another baby on the way you’d think his priorities are straight.. but he is moving like he is single. A man who associates himself with other women especially an ex, stay far away from him, it’s only a matter of time that it isn’t going to end well. Also goes to show that he cares more about hurting their feeling than yours. The fact that he’s making them stay relevant and not considering your feelings at all is very weird. Furthermore, you shouldn’t even have to ask, he shouldn’t be in contact with them, follow them or even look in that direction whatsoever. Sorry but that is wild.

I’m glad I’m not insane. He makes out like I’m being so unreasonable. Last night I left him on the sofa, last thing I said was that I’m going to start adding my exes back. Sound petty but was more to make him think about whether he would want me doing it. I think because they were on “good terms” when they ended that’s his excuse but I can’t excuse it

It’s red flag vibes everywhere sis!! You def dont need a third person to tell you what’s happening is completely wrong. You guys are tgth and ‘ve got a daughter and house. A whole life. However he clearly shows his priorities are outside than inside the house. The worse part was where he throws money on his ex, the same money that could have been used on family. Sorry, but to me, these men are only waiting for an opportunity where the spark could come back up again with the exes so something can happen.

Hmm I’m gonna say something controversial.. I think you can definitely be cool with exes. Context is obviously important here as well as setting boundaries & it doesn’t sound like any are in place. Also, if you’re not comfortable with the relationship your partner has with them, he definitely needs to prioritise you & your feelings over theirs. If you were cool with them too & everything was more transparent I think you’d probably feel more comfortable, but because your partner’s acting strangely & one of the exes is asking for money, I’d definitely have an issue too.

So I said it’s weird to him. He told me to fuck off and he’s now apparently deleted her off fb, said if anything happens to us then he ain’t supporting me he’s having no contact blah blah blah but he doesn’t have any children with them. Said I don’t know about his and said girls story. He has the upmost respect for her. While showing absolutely 0 to me. Gaslight me to fuck. Being made out to be controlling now because I’m telling him who to have as friends on Facebook. He just don’t get it

He’s now apparently packing a bag and leaving me

Keeps going on about “their story” “their friendship” “their relationship” And is doing nothing to fight for me. I said it was weird that he adds her. He’s gone made saying I’m calling him weird and sneaky. And I haven’t even mentioned the word sneaky or the topic. Completely twisting it all on me.

He sounds toxic as fuck. If it were me the way he’s getting so defensive and upset about it just makes it seem like he’s doing dodgy things behind your back.

I wouldn't care, so long as he isn't shagging her I have no issue. . However, this man threatens to leave you more than once and you've still stuck around? Why?

Oh and to top off having to deal with his bad mood all day. He’s just jumped in the bath and almost ran out the door to go the pub and get on it with his mate. Same mate who doesn’t have anything to do with him up until he has a drink. Cba for him