Loneliness

Hi everyone ,
I have a toddler , I don’t have any friends I feel so alone my family live in another country . My realtionship has broken down as of recently even when I was in one I was still feeling so lonley when I’ve had the baby it changed everyrhing . Everyday is the same . My child is going through tantrums constant crying . I’m exhausted it dosent get better . My mental health is so bad I have no adult to turn too . I hate being a mum and haven’t enjoyed it at all . I can’t do this anymore

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I’m sorry you’re going through this. It’s tough with a toddler especially when you’re doing it alone with no family. Please try to reach out to your GP, health visitor.. they may be able to refer you to a charity called Homestart. They have amazing volunteers that can visit you weekly and give you support, chat to you, help with practical things..Good luck and I hope you can get some help xx

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thank you so much for all the comments it means a lot . I have gone down through the gp route multiple times I haven’t gotten anywhere with them . It’s really disappointed that I cried out for help and I have been referred to all these people and then they phone me and say they either have no help available no volunteers( home start) my health visitor simply just told me all the tips and things I am already doing and it’s not working . I am the one that needs the help and support I am super depressed anxious , neglecting my self because I feel like a failure so weak and lonley . It sounds pathetic but I have nobody by my side nobody to help , offer child care give me a 3 minutes breather to think straight without constant screams , clinginess . I can’t even go to work because no child care and not enough finances to cover it myself . I’m restricted with everything I do . I feel stuck in time repeat the same thing no matter the day and time and being offered meds from the gp isn

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What I wanted as it’s the extra emotional support and physical help that I am dying for some company to keep me going someone go kind of check up and just be there through those hard times it isn’t just recent it’s gone on for such a long time now I have battled through it but now I can’t do it anymore

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Are you near/can you get to your local library? I take my toddler every week to ‘rhyme time’ which is free. It gives me much needed adult contact with other parents and you can get a free hot drink.. do you have any church run toddler groups near you? They are cheap and cheerful and have lots to keep toddlers entertained xx

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I am so sorry to hear you are going through this 😔. You are strong and have been through a lot as a mother. Its so hard without support. I don’t live near family but i met some wonderful mums during baby classes and if you feel comfortable i really recommend talking to mums during these classes. There is something called the ‘mum club’ throughout the uk where you can go to events and meet other mums. Your local childrens centre will run free classes. Hope you’re okay

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