Working husband sleeps until work time
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Maybe ask him if he could try waking up earlier and going to bed earlier so you can have some time with him. Or maybe plan something for the days he off
Tbh as someone who used to work those 12 hour shifts and is now a SAHM so I’ve been on both sides, that’s what my day used to look like as well. That looks like he’s only awake at home for two hours? And it’s the middle of the night so your kid should be asleep, theoretically. Maybe you guys could get someone to come in and help during the day if you need it? I totally get needing help during the day and I’m sorry you aren’t able to get it! But yes, those work hours are grueling and it’s very rough. I’m sorry!
I went through that when my twins were infants. My husband worked 6pm-6am 4 days a week in law enforcement. He would get home, eat and go to bed then sleep until he had to get ready and leave. It was rough and I tried to keep my frustration to myself for as long as I could since I knew he needed sleep and worked hard. Eventually I had to say something and I approached it calmly without making it sound like I was attacking him or anything. He understood how I felt and said he’d make some changes. It wasn’t immediate but he did change when he got up so he could be present with us for a couple hours before he had to leave. So I say talk to him before you build up resentment.
If he comes back at 2am most probably it’s not realistic he would go to sleep much earlier. People need to decompress after work for some time. I think your only chance is his days off and maybe few hours of help from family or nanny during the day.
Both of my baby daddies were like that(the first one didn’t play video games). The second one completely ignored me AND his child. I swore to myself I would NEVER EVER do that again. It’s so lonely and stressful to have all the extra burdens put on a wife. As long as he does what I ask when he says he is and he does it correctly
No it’s not normal, or at least it shouldn’t be. It suck’s he has to work so much and I do understand having to wind down after work, but maybe he can commit to o only playing one hour so that if he can get a free hour before work he can help with one chore or at least help watch your toddler while you focus on another task? Or even to use as family time. He may be working very hard which is nice but he is part of the family and can dedicate time to helping in his home or quality time each day. My opinion at least
No not imo. My husband works overnight, but he stays up to help me out with our children etc. He only gets between 5-6 hours of sleep and it's usually broken sleep.
Hey mama! My husband works 6pm to about 4 am. My husband does pick up our daughter from school, but other than that I do everything. I also work FT and when I get home I do everything around the house, clean and look after our 5 yr old. It’s exhausting. I will speak up and ask for help, but he always says he will and then doesn’t and I want it cleaned up or done right away otherwise it would take forever to get done. Weekends is when he catches up on sleep so I feel like a single mom sometimes. I totally know where you’re coming from. I’m here if you ever wanna talk/vent.