When does feeding get easier?

Omg every mealtime is a chore:
The constant whacking and chucking spoon and food on the floor
Not wanting to eat any of my home cooked food
Only eating some pouches, maybe 1/4 if we’re lucky
No idea how to serve snacks - in the high chair? He’s into EVERYTHING won’t stay still so can’t just give him something to eat on the floor/chair etc
Would happily live off babybel and yoghurt if I let him
Apparently eats ok at nursery

Pls help! Any advice great fully appreciated. It’s really getting me down 🥲 x

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My little one went through a phase of throwing everything - still does it sometimes, it’s infuriating isn’t it!

All meals are in the high chair in the kitchen so I can clean up easily. Make no fuss about the throwing - just put a few pieces on the tray at a time rather than a full plate. If they throw it, try to mimic eating it yourself or I self feed a bit of the food so he can taste it. I don’t do any pouches as he doesn’t like being spoon fed anymore. And I do snacks in the high chair too.

I also don’t make things especially for him anymore - unless it’s stuff I’ve batch cooked and it’s frozen in little portions - as too stressful when they throw it all. I modify what we’re having or his sister is having.

It will get better - it’s a frustrating phase! 💗

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Literally could have just written this myself! 😭 getting a bit fed up putting in effort putting lovely snacks/plates & food up & sometimes eats hardly any… most of it on the floor - which the doggos are loving! 🤣 then other days she is a dream, scoffs everything! I do just think they have days don’t they! 🫣🤍✨ I use the same methodology with all our parenting challenges - no one throws food at 25 - she’ll get past it! 🤞🏽🤣♥️ sending love! It’s tough! Xxxx

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Yummy little belly cookbook all the way. My first was a great water. Not so much this time round 😂 remember that up until 2urs old your looking at the marble analogy. Imagine their tummy is a jar that needs to be filled each day. Marbles are food. Sometimes they’ll eat lots and the jar is almost full and sometimes very little. Either way you have to fill the jar to the top and milk is what fills in the gaps and tops up the jar. By 12mths babies get 90% nutrition from milk and just play with foods, by 18mths babies should still get 60% of their nutrition from milk. It’s only after two years that you need to worry about how much they eat. Mi e just make a mess!

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Honestly they take minutes to make some of them and they’re really really nice!

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Oh also put the food on your plate and eat some of it. Sitting on your knee they will eat better if they think they’re having your food. If sticking with high chairs but a couple of cheap shower curtains and pop them underneath. You can shake them outside quick and they wash easily on the line.

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that’s entirely normal. Mine are 14mths almost 15 and do this. I have three times the mess though 🤣

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they are soo soo cuteee 🥹
what kind of chair do you recommend, i have 2 but very similar..also now he just vomited all his food after bath..😭😭😭i can’t anymore

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My boy is the same - only food he will feed himself is crisps and chips 🙃 i have to physically put food in his mouth for him to spit it out half the time 🫠 he likes to feed the dog and finds it funny 💀
Loves his milk still and I mean he’s still on about 5 bottles a day. Loves yoghurt and eats about 4 a day. When I think about everything he puts into his belly (including milk), I’m sure he eats more than me 😂 xx

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we have the ikea antilop chairs. £13 each and easy for everything. Literally no cracks or folds or places for food or water to get trapped.

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