Is this abuse
I am 37 weeks pregnant with 4th baby. I out all day on my feet. I came home and legs very swollen so I put my feet up.
I asked my partner to just put pizzas in oven as I was too sore to make a dinner from scratch like I always do. He started cursing and when I said to put peas on to, he said shut ur mouth and f* off. He said this in front of my 3 young children .He then said to my children to go with a girl that is easy going not like your mum when older.
I only asked him to put pizzas in oven and boul peas. He said it is a women's job to make dinner. Ha! I was too sore to make dinner.
This was last night. I've put up with worse things from him. Today he has been all nice again.
He has said I'm the worst girlfriend ever before. That I am pathetic, crazy etc.
He has told me if I don't give him sex he will do it with someone else. He gets so angry when I'm too sore for sex.
He has called me a bitch and other mean things. He says I can't live without him. Then other times he is all lovely to me and says he loves me.
I know I should leave him but I don't know how I would manage on my own.
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Yeah, that's abuse
It always baffles me when women stay with such awful men, and then even worse have multiple children with them! Bin him off, as it sounds like you do everything anyway!
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Yes, this does sound like psychological abuse. It took me 7 years to leave an abusive relationship and much of it was spent learning to love and respect myself. If you are not ready to make a physical plan, please please at bare minimum, seek therapy, learn to love yourself so much that no form of disrespect can be tolerated. There are DV websites that have templates to help you formulate a safety exit plan. Start researching what you can now. I usually vote for staying with husbands that struggle with some emotional issues and seeking a plan to stay together. However, this sounds pretty harmful to your mental health. It also is no good at all for the kids to hear him speak to you in that way. Especially if you are staying calm to avoid arguments with him. It could be normalized for them. My kids had no idea that the behavior they witnessed was wrong by the time I finally got out. I've spent a long time re-teaching them what respect and love truly look and feel like.