Struggling

It's so hard. Sending so much love your way ❤️ x

I’m sorry you’re struggling. I can relate and it does suck, hang in there ♥️ I hope you find the right support person to ease your life.

I am so sorry. I know it all, have been there for 3 yrs now since LO was 6 weeks old. Nothing like you picture it .. for you now: try to get as much sleep as possible, go outside, meet other mums in babygroups, and be kind to yourself if things don't go like expected. I could go on forever, but it really is super hard. Nevertheless, you will make it. hugs

It's really hard but you can do this! It will get easier. What pain are you having? For the fatigue, have you tried co-sleeping (following safety guidelines)? X

@Claire I have constant back pain from lifting LO all of the time. I do co-sleep and it has helped but I still find myself constantly exhausted

Its so hard but it gets better with time I promise! 🩷 Have you tried adding some more supplements to your diet? I added magnesium to mine and I’ve seen a drastic improvement in my tiredness and overall mood. Also i try to squeeze a 10-15min YouTube yoga practice sometimes it makes me feel better. Feel free to message me if you want to just vent. You got this xx

It’s hard. Living like a one day at a time!

If you can, try to see an osteo about your back but otherwise, unless it's something serious, it should improve on it's own. My lower back was bad at that point but almost back to normal now she's 6 months but have a little twinge where the epidural was

@Claire do you think the pain is a postpartum thing? I didn’t think about that. Baby is super heavy too

I did it alone from day 1 too in a city away from my family. I ended up moving back closer to them after 9 months so I had more support. So you have my sympathy which I know doesn’t help. The best thing I did was get out of the house as often as I could, I went to every baby group I could find, went for the longest walks, sat in coffee shops and sometimes even just went out for a drive so he’d sleep and then pulled over and had a nap myself and went to a Mum and baby cinema showing once and we both slept the whole way through it 🤣 I just found being in the house was the worst!

It is really really hard when you don’t any family around. I am a migrant woman myself with no family in Australia. I am a single mother since my daughter is 1, now my daughter is going to be 4. I appreciate connecting in this group.

That 4 month period hit hard for me too as a single mum. Noise cancelling headphones. Let that baby cry in a safe Moses basket or cot etc. You NEED your own time and mental space to cope. Take it. And don’t feel guilty. Your child will not hate you or come to any harm if you need short breaks to just calm yourself or relax. Don’t take any advice off asshole mothers with lots of help who LOVE to judge other women on here. Don’t lift that baby if it hurts too. Put them on the floor and let them chill or cry. Routine is important when they get a little older so start to think what you’d rather have. Early mornings and early bedtime so you get the evenings to yourself. Or the opposite. You’re not far off the better phase where they start sleeping all night I promise! I moved mine to a separate room with a monitor at four months and it helped him sleep for longer periods instantly. Xxx

It’s really hard but you have got this, and in the end you’ll look back and say you know what I did that, me. Cut yourself some slack, get out in the fresh air meet mums at baby groups. There are so many of us in the same position and you will find and build your own network. And if you want to cry then cry. But look at it this way, you’ve survived 4 months so far you’ll make it I know you will and your little one will remember it and remember who was there when they needed someone in the years to come xx