Thoughts..

No you're not being dramatic...at all totally understand how you must be feeling. Did he discuss this with you before booking?

Uhh woah. I'd have a hard time wanting to keep him my fiance! How long was the trip planned for? Did he want you to come? Could he not put off the longer trip and just go on an overnight thing? Eek. No you're not being dramatic.

Have you let him know you’d like to also take a solo trip? If not, then your whinging is a little uncalled for in my opinion. He is entitled to enjoy his life too and have some solo time with his mates, just as you are. Maybe start planning your trip while he’s away.

@Samina There was no discussion! Didn’t ask my thoughts or feelings. He briefly mentioned wanting to take a birthday trip. Then he up and booked it.

You're completely right to feel how you do, and definitely not whinging lol. you're parenting together and these things should be discussed together, ask him how he'd feel if you booked a trip without notifying or agreeing with him! X

@Courtney I’m definitely struggling! This trip was planned for less than a month. He didn’t ask if I could come, nor did he consider anything shorter or closer.

@Sophie Yes, I’ve let him know. I don’t have the luxury of jumping up and leaving my children. If we were both having solo time there would be no issue.

It's actually ridiculous. You don't do that to someone you love. Up and book a7 day trip with no discussion as to timing, finances, length of trip, location... ridiculous.

@Lianne Thank you!! To me, that’s not how a partnership works, and definitely not a family.

I'd be seriously questioning the fiance part. I'm so sorry. He's incredibly selfish. Lucky for you you know now before you get married. And as to the people saying you can go on now and book your own 7 day trip...yeah like you're going to leave your little kids, esp the infant, for 7 days?!?!?! And with whom? HIM??? 😆 Oh, okay.

@Lianne Omg, right!?! 😂😂 I appreciate your sympathy. 💕

I'm so sorry that sounds incredibly selfish, would not be having it at all! And agree with others

It's honestly good you know this now. I agree with everyone else. I do want to know if this is the first time he's been this selfish or is that something you see often? Better to be a single mom for awhile and look for Mr. Right later. I don't think I'd get married quite yet anyway... Like maybe postpone if the date is set so he knows you're serious? Definitely need a sit down with him. If he tries to call you selfish, nope! I'd be done. Narcissism, gaslighting, etc. This is a big red flag in my opinion. But is it the first? Are there others? Good luck, mama!