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Partner grieving
Hi girls,
My husband lost one of his close friends at a very early age a couple of days ago days ago. He is understandably in bits, I didn’t know the friend very well at all but is it normal that I am so unbelievably upset? Like honestly looking at my husband right now makes me want to burst out crying (obviously don’t do this In front of him) but I just feel absolutely awful for husband and his friends family and his friends too. Neither of us have had to deal with grief before so I don’t know if this is normal or if I’m really too sensitive? I feel so selfish that I feel upset, I’m obviously not showing him and consoling him as much as he needs but I just feel terrible about feeling this way
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@Rachel oh thank you so much! I’ve felt so guilty for the last few days because of how upset I’ve felt, I’ve felt so selfish so that has reassured me a lot x
Never feel guilty or feel like you are selfish for having feelings. I would say it is a bit like how I feel about Liam Payne dying. I wasn't even a fan of One Direction, but I just feel so upset for his family, which is a normal human emotion x
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Yes, it is very normal. It proves that you are human & have a heart. It wouldn't be normal if you weren't upset. You obviously love your husband, so of course you are going to be upset that he is hurting. You are doing the right thing by comforting him & then getting upset when he isn't around. Just continue to be there for him as much as you can x