Burnt out

I have been exactly the same we are 10 weeks into her sleeping so poorly! Also EBF so I'm also doing all the night wakings but we are now trying to stop her association with boob and sleep and so I have started giving her a final breast feed and then 45 mins later a top up of 60-90ml (depending on how long she has fed for on the boob) and then heading up to bed 10-15 mins after this and encouraging her to self settle. I've got 2 older kids too so it's tough isn't it when it's just you and the kids managing during the days! I would recommend starting to stop feeding to sleep etc even just for that first initial sleep and any naps as that's helped us loads! Still doing night feeds but they've reduced down too with her being able to self settle x

I feel you as I'm in the same spot. The way I manage is to ask my husband to have my LO in the evening for an hour or however long he can and I sleep then. For example, we try get the lo to sleep at 9pm and I feed him then. Sometimes he wouldn't sleep so I give him to my husband to look after in the living room while I catch up on sleep. You can argue it's not good for the LO's routine but at the moment I'm so exhausted that I don't care - we can establish a routine when he's a bit older and can self settle. Currently he just screams and screaming just escalates if I don't pick him up and he starts choking in his hysteria. Sometimes I fall asleep with LO in my arms when my husband is at home, so he will stay next to me and watch us to make sure the LO is safe. I also figured that my boy can do his first nap of the day in his bed (the rest only pram/contact naps) so I make sure I also sleep at the same time. Don't ask me what my house looks like or what I eat - I have no clue and decided not to worry. 🤣

I’ve been feeling really burned out since Christmas to be honest. I was unwell and then my LO was unwell in the new year and she had been sleeping well - ish, she then started waking and babbling to herself which then kept me up and in the last couple of weeks she’s regressed to waking every 2-3 hours and doing mega long feeds (up to 35/40 mins) whereas in the day she’ll do 5/10 mins. I’m struggling to drink enough fluids, I’m not eating regularly, my skin is getting really bad, my hair is starting to thin out and I just feel generally exhausted. Do you have any support from wider family or nearby friends or NCT/baby groups? I keep myself busy in the week by going to baby classes and meeting up with NCT mums to give me some structure and reason to get out of the house.