C section

Definitely feel the same way 😔. Also, I had the shakes so bad after the surgery and was throwing up so I feel like it was not a beautiful experience like i had dreamed of.

Definitely i felt this more with my second baby as i had the chance of a vbac and i made it to 7cm no pain relief. Things didnt go right and a lot failed for me. :(

My section was an incredible experience don’t get me wrong, I definitely am happy I went down that route, but it does feel less like I gave birth And more like one minute she wasn’t here the next minute she was

1000% feel this!

I was the kind of person who read everything from Ina May Gaskin to Frédérick Leboyer and unassisted natural birth. I was obsessed with having a natural birth. But in the end, I ended up having an emergency C-section. Even then, I was given a choice. I could wait another four hours, but I chose the C-section. Most likely, the situation would have only gotten worse, but because I felt in control, I never experienced any sense of loss or disappointment. It was a wonderful experience. Beautiful music was playing, my husband was holding my hand. In my experience, if you don’t feel like an outsider in the process, you are far less likely to feel deprived of anything.

100% not alone, I feel like this constantly and 4 months PP I’m still having to come to terms with it and I still struggle with it. My section wasn’t chaotic, I failed to progress after my waters broke, 72 hours later I was only 5cm so before baby became distressed or I was distressed they advised a section - I waited another 4 hours after this and I barely made another cm. So although it wasn’t an “emergency” as such, I felt like I was robbed of so many opportunities that I’ve seen other mamas mention they had during their sections. I had no skin to skin, I was unable to take any pictures during the moment, it was just all a blur and I do feel a disconnect.

@Aimee i feel you 100%!!! I was in labor with my first for 5 days made it to 7cm and decided for a section because i couldn’t take it anymore 🙃 & I always have that thought of “damn I could’ve waited I was almost there” & he’s 19 months now & I still can’t get over it I also had a second elected c section because I didn’t want to go through the same thing I did with my first & then again i think “damn what if I would’ve got induced & I could’ve had a VBAC” it sucks lol

I felt the same way I was in labor 3 days progressing slowly I got to 9 cm and was stuck for 6-7 hours it felt like my body betrayed me I felt like shit I was so frightened on the operating table as I was rushed in Icl a bit traumatised but I still want another 😂😂 but then I found out little one have done a poo in my stomach so I was stressed he was gonna get sick I was in so much pain I couldn’t hold him couldn’t sit up to breast feed couldn’t get to him when he cried i felt like a failure tbh I did even get skin to skin cause I was shaking uncontrollably and In so much pain I do feel cheated tbh but I don’t think my body can handle labor very well i want another but I’m scared my body will give up on me :/

I had a connection with my son but it was when I got to hold him not like a right away thing. Because I got to take a photo and kiss him but then they took him away for a few hours while I got stitched up and went back into the room. It was definitely weird to experience but after I didn’t think much of it. I definitely still wanted the vaginal birth experience so I tried vbac for my Second

Yes and no. I felt like I'd given birth because my baby was here. But I was very, very sad about the way she came into the world. I didn't feel an instant connection. I still struggle now to feel a connection. I know I love her because I am so incredibly protective of her, and I only ever do that to people I love. But that tingly feel I get with my cat I rarely feel for my daughter. It makes me sad, I will always wonder if I'd had the birth I wanted to have would things be different. I'm in therapy because I've bene struggling with my connection to my daughter

Definitely feel the same and there were comments made as well someone told me I didn't give birth I was just cut open 🙃 freshly pp it made me so heartbroken to hear that when I was already feeling so crap !

I definitely feel you on this. My induction failed completely, so I didn’t labour at all and I feel quite robbed of that experience.

I feel the same too. Like I’m grateful for the c-section because I know it was the best thing in that moment to keep me and my baby healthy and alive, but I still find it really hard to say “I gave birth to him” 😔 it doesn’t feel right to say it which is so sad because we did still birth them!! And it wasn’t an easy decision at all to agree to the c-section (or an easy recovery!!) but we did it because we thought it was best for us and our babies and that’s all that matters 💗💗

@Samina I’m so sorry! That was a terrible thing to say. My sister once said the same thing to me, though she later apologised. I wasn’t hurt, but I did feel saddened that someone who has never been pregnant could say something so harsh. It never occurred to me to avoid saying ‘giving birth’. I use it naturally when talking about my son’s birth. I gave life, which is even more profound.

I feel this 💯

@Nora exactly this i also couldn't breastfeed so was feeling pretty low about it and my aunt just made me feel worse. Thank you for replying.

Yup I’m also grieving my birth experience. Feels so outside of my body like I didn’t fully accept that it happened and I’m disappointed that I didn’t push my baby.

Both of mine were emergency c sections under general anesthesia. The feeling of waking up with no baby there is definitely not what I hoped for! But it sank in after a while. This time my twins are in the NICU and it didn't feel real until day 2 or 3 when I finally got to hold one of them 🥲

I thought it was crazy for thinking this! I'm glad I'm not alone. I have a hard time saying, "I gave birth." i was doing all the exercises and meditation therapy for a vaginal birth when my baby went breech last minute. I went in for an inversion to turn baby around so I could then be induced, but baby wouldn't turn, and her heart rate started to drop. I was then told that c-section was the best option. Everything happened so fast, & i had my baby in a state of anxiousness. I don't have a labor & delivery story to tell. it just feels so weird.

was planning for a natural birth so def not my birth plan. I am hoping with next pregnancy to try for natural vbac but we’ll see. I think it’s normal to feel disappointed when things don’t go to plan. I personally was just so grateful that he was healthy!

100% feel this. It was an emergency situation so really feel a bit robbed of the whole first moment with my baby that people talk about. But it was the safest way for the both of us so have to be grateful for that ❤️