MIL constantly suggesting pumping

Hello mamas ,I am desperate with dealing with my MIL, she constantly suggests that there is something wrong with my little baby boy as soon he cries even though he might be only hungry she will create this drama and stress that he needs medication for his stomach pain etc. she now keeps insisting that I should be pumping even though I have enough supply and to freeze it so I can go out and leave my son at home. I keep saying that I would only pump if it’s really necessary. However she never listens and always pressure me with her attitude ‘I know it all’. Did anyone ever had a similar situation? I feel like she only says to pump for her benefit so she could be alone with my son which I don’t want since I don’t trust her as much as I would like. Sorry for the vent but this has been going for a while. My son is only 2 months old as of this week.

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Yea I wouldn’t wanna leave him alone with her either especially if she’s constantly insisting something is wrong with him and he needs medication..your his mom, just keep doing what your doing and trust your instincts

Whether she is to be trusted or not, feeding is a bonding moment for MOTHER AND CHILD. You shouldn't have to pump so SHE can have that moment. Fuck that. Not being petty at all. You didn't carry a child for 9 months, nourish him with your body so someone else can come in and try to take a huge role from you no matter how momentary it is. I breastfeed and whilst I let family members hold him occasionally, I'm not giving anyone the satisfaction of feeding him.

I don’t think she should tell you but my MIL says the same and I just do what I want however I do suggest pumping some just in case you ever have a milk dip. When it dips your baby may be fussy wanting more but that’s up to you. If you breastfeed so much your baby may not even take a bottle. My kids never took one cause I just EBF 🤷🏻‍♀️

Stand up for yourself and stand your ground. You get to make the decisions not anyone else. “No, I’m good thank you”

"thanks MIL I gonna keep feeding my son the way I want to." No more talking EVER and if she keep crossing the boundaries, just limit contact

Dear it’s your baby and no one else other than you can decide what’s best for the baby. As per my experience always listen to your gut and 99% it will be right. When it comes to baby crying for milk it’s very common and it has nothing to do with stomach pain. Kids cry for everything even the feeling of poop, sensation of pee and feeling sleepy they cry. Also Breastfeeding not only helps with feeding but it soothes the baby. Breastfeeding builds a strong connection between baby and the mom due to which the baby has a healthy mental health when grown up. It also prevents in breast cancer for women. When it comes to your MIL just say back off in respectful way. Setting boundaries are good. Yes she will not like it but it’s healthy

I find it odd that she’s paranoid something is wrong with your baby if he cries? Has anything been wrong with him? Was something wrong with her son at that age or something? Just making that up, would be really off putting for me. Just even by itself would make me say something. But then add that she’s trying to take breast feeding from you? That’s stupid. If there is something “wrong” health “medicine” wise, your milk will change to help him because you’re breast feeding him. Pumping wouldn’t help that. Could she not breastfeed? I’m curious if she’s projecting, not defending her at all. Saying maybe she needs to be told “ this isn’t your baby. It’s your grandson and you need to relax, I am responsible for him and will take care of him how we choose“

@Alexis he is a perfect baby and only cries due to basic needs. She is just overworried for anything and also spoke to my in laws sisters and they had the same issue with her. She also breastfed her babies and apparently they didn’t even cry she said…. Which is an absolute bsht. I just need to be more direct and firm since she doesn’t get my polite answers right

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