Should I ask him again to marry me?

Me and my bd been together fr 2 almost 3 yrs now. We share a one month old and I have 3 other children from a prior relationship. We split fr a bit before the birth then got somewhat back together after 6 months of pregnancy. He had been consistent visiting every day, helping w baby, buying baby essentials, helping me financially, we have been intimate together, and recently he confessed his love fr me. He did have a gf during the split but has since "broken up". He wants me to move in with him, possibly at the end of my lease in June. He wants me to help with bills because of the other children at a flat rate. He knows I want to be a wife. I am Christian and he is Muslim. Last time he mentioned marriage he said we can do vows with an emam( I'm not sure what that is) but doesn't sound legit. How do I get this man to marry me the correct way ? Should I propose? 🤣

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I’m Muslim and a Muslim marriage is legit and you have to have a marriage license, that’s basically like a judge or priest and has all rights to officiate a marriage.

Sweetie this isn’t going to work in my opinion an emam/imam is a Muslim minister . So he is trying to marry you the correct way he knows how because he and you want to use ministers from yalls different faiths. Imams are legit because they are ministers from mosques and they are certified from the Nation of Islam. I’m not Muslim but just by googling the term as opposed to talking to my Muslim family and friends this all makes sense by the way don’t EVER propose no matter what faiths yall are in

No, please don’t propose. If a man wants to propose & commit to marriage, he will ask u on his own X I’m a Muslim & My Husband is a Christian. In my religion, a Muslim man can marry a Christian woman. Bt marriage between Muslim woman & Christian man is considered invalid. Bt can I ask u what u consider “the correct” way of getting married? Bt I honestly think Ya’ll need to have extensive conversations cuz ya’ll are ultimately in an interfaith relationship so I’m not sure how u haven’t discussed ur different religions in 2 almost 3yrs. How do u not know what an Imam is? I’m jus questioning all this cuz I think u shud have known all this by now cuz HE shud have explained it to u especially if it’s so important to him Bt don’t worry an Imam is legit & it wud be a real marriage bt I don’t think u shud propose, wait until he proposes to u. In the meantime, just keep working on rebuilding ur relationship, raising ur kids, & seeing if he continues to stay consistent. Time will tell mama :)

omg I just checked ur profile! First of all Congrats X & 2nd omg ur beautiful (can’t believe ur a twin mama) and 3rd ur lil baby is so cute!

Girl no , don’t propose

That sounds like a bit of a shaky past to propose so soon. I would give it about more time before you look into such a big commitment. If he’s involved and helping with the baby then just take that for now. Marriage is t everything and it’s definitely it what you should do.

You can propose however if he’s already against it before then I don’t see why you would. Also I wouldn’t recommend marrying him anyway because you believe in two different religions and it’ll cause conflicts with your children either now or in the future. In Islam men propose. If he wants to marry you he will propose, trying to force it will turn him away from you. Also if you’re married through Islam you’re not married legally, that would be separate UNLESS you both live in a Muslim run country.

Omg please don’t propose 🤦🏽‍♀️