How long is acceptable
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Yes I have, he says it's not a big deal, the last time he did it was just before Christmas, he lied to me at first about how long he was there then eventually told me she asked him if he wanted a brew so he went in and had 1!!
Just to add also the time he went in for "a brew" he was supposed to back in time for me to go to work..... because he stayed I was half hour late for work, he said he forgot but I always work on the Sunday he has his son, we have a daughter together so needed him back to have her.
My partner would wait at the door no longer than 5 mins- him and his ex hate each other
If they have a good co-parenting relationship I don’t see why there should be a time limit. Obviously where you said he went in for a cuppa and had other responsibilities, that’s a completely different story. That sounds like your husband was trying to purposely get out of looking after his other child, because what other excuse is there? If it was a genuine one-off mistake and he really did forget, ok fair enough everyone is human. But if he continues to conveniently forget, he’s doing it on purpose. That’s an issue you need to talk to him about and his ex is not the issue here as it could just as easily be a hobby / gaming / other friend etc.
It's always hard being with someone who has children to a previous partner as they will have a tie to that person forever. If the two parents can have a decent relationship then this will always be better for the child. This sounds like it is more an issue of how much you trust your partner and not how long he spends talking to the mother of his child
I pick my son up at the door, very rarely go inside, although when the weather has been awful in the past I have, especially if my son isn't quite ready to leave! I personally don't see the problem? I think it's great that he has a good co parenting relationship with his ex, to the point that they can actually chat over a brew and there be no hostility! I WISH that's what I had with mine! Cut the guy some slack and ask yourself WHY it bothers you? Is it because you think he still harbours feelings for her? Or would u rather they hated each other? As long as he's not shagging her then I don't see an issue here
@Kimberley this.
My partner literally stands at the front door and picks his daughter up in about 5 minutes and the same with drop off. They hate each other so that might be why but I would also be concerned if he spent an hour over at his exs. Have you spoken to him about this?