Social worker coming for assessment

So long story short my partner was in care as a kid due to his mum not being able to handle him and his behaviour. Because of this the midwife wants a social worker to come out and do an assessment even though she has no concerns😅 I’m more than likely sure that we had to have this with our eldest but this was 3 years ago now and can’t remember. Can someone please tell me what they’re supposed to checking or looking for? As my partners not going to be home as he’ll be at work.

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Don't sign anything xx

@Chanelle McManus🧡💜 oh god I’ve got to sign something?!😅xx

@Laura (Lor) they may ask you to sign something before an assessment but, you don't have to. You can decline. The issue is, once you've signed anything, you've given them power and if your midwife isn't concerned about anything in particular, they'll just try and find problems. I've been in the care system all my life. You don't actually have to allow them to even assess you. You can decline. It's voluntary, especially as there's no concerns. Your in control, not them. Once they've got there claws in and gained your trust, they won't leave easily xx

Your husband being in care as a child is definitely not a good enough reason for a social worker to come and assess you. Not sure why any midwife would even suggest that but don't be worried or anything. You look like a lovely little family. They just like to pick people apart xx

Good name choice by the way❤️ my son is called hunter too xx

@Chanelle McManus🧡💜 I was going to say like just because he was in care doesn’t mean he’s a shit dad or can’t look after his own. They’re sounding very degrading as like if anything was the problem for whatever reason my eldest would have a social worker as we speak. I’m just hoping it’s a little get to know us and ask any questions. But okay I won’t sign anything and will be asking questions if it doesn’t seem as genuine as I would’ve thought. Yeah like she said she has no concerns as she met him at one of midwife appointments but she said obviously she doesn’t want to get into trouble if she didn’t refer us. But I shall see Thursday when this woman comes out. Thank you so much for your help xx

@Chanelle McManus🧡💜 my step mum put in an anonymous concern when I was still pregnant with our eldest against my partner and it was shut down straight away. So god knows what to think but yeah it’s madness how the system works. Assess the people that doesn’t need to be assessed but fails all the ones who needs their help the most 🤦🏼‍♀️ xx

@Laura (Lor) I know right!! It's ridiculous xx

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